HELP i cant public speak i can't get my word's out &i go sooo red....what can i do to overcome this??

Question

ITs wrecking my life!!!

i go red then i think people are gonna think "whys she going red shes so stupid"
then thinking that i cnt get my words out

Answer 1

You might want to check out information on Social Phobia. This is one of the most common forms of anxiety disorders (more common than Agoraphobia). Over 7% of the population suffers from social anxiety disorder.

If you have social phobia you usually worry that others will notice your anxiety because of your blushing, sweating, shaking, or difficulty getting your words out, (for example).

Other fears triggered by social situations include:

* I'll look uncomfortable or awkward
* I'll seem weird or strange
* I'll appear stupid or incompetent
* I'll look embarrassed
* I'll be boring

These fears tend to be triggered when just anticipating the social situation. You may also have noticed that, after the event, you often feel bad or worse when thinking about how you "performed". How you actually felt in the situation can play a big role in this "post-mortem".

The Social Phobia/Social Anxiety Association, a non-profit organization, seeks to educate about social phobia:
http://www.socialphobia.org/

They list some good self help books here:
http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/bookstore.html

You should talk with your doctor and ask for a referral to a psychologist who specailizes in Anxiety Disorders.

Answer 2

Speak from intelligence. My greatest fear of public speaking was the fact that I was deathly afraid that my facts were wrong or that I would come across as if I didn't know what I was talking about.

So now, before I have to speak in public or give a meeting...I verify my facts...and anticipate questions people will have and try to answer them before I get to where I'm going. Then I rehearse over and over to make sure that my speech isn't too dry.

When I'm actually giving the speech I put it out of my head that I'm talking to 4, 8, 10, 50, or even 100 people. I focus on the first couple people in front as if I'm in a conversation rather than giving a speech. Moving from person to person every so often will give the impression to everyone that you aren't trained on one person.

I've noticed that people in the audience don't like to be looked at or put on the spot either, so generally once you make eye contact with a person....their eye attention will be thwarted from you.

A speech is nothing more than a conversation with many people. Keep it simple, clear, and factual and you will be fine.

Good luck.

PS: Pretending everyone is in their underwear doesn't work.

Answer 3

You know i too had the same problem But than my Sir told me, "The people who you are facing have come to listen to you, and BELIEVE ME they really do not anythong what YOU know. And if you still feel scared, RAISE your Voice and your Head Look Straight BUT Just over their head, that ways you will make no eye contact and still look upfront and pose as confident and ready to GO". AND now I am into the team of Anchors for our college shows. So Get UP angd Get going. Best of LUCK

Answer 4

Remember: Those people sitting out there in your audience will probably never see you again in your daily life to tell you how you did, or to criticize you. Secondly, if they don't like your speech, they probably won't ever tell you anyway-- they are afraid of public speaking themselves. A large majority of people put public speaking #1 on their list of their greatest fears-- even higher than death!!!! I don't know about you, but I can live with a little embarrassment. I would rather be a little embarrased, trying to get over my fear of speaking, rather than to not ever speak in public, but be dead!

Answer 5

The reason people get nervous when they speak, is because they care...they want to appear intelligent, smart, or well-prepared....or more aptly put, they don't want to look like an idiot up there.

The first thing you need to realize, is that everyone gets nervous...you don't always see it, just like not everyone notices you are getting read, hot, weasy, palms sweaty, knees shaking...however nervousness manifests itself in you.

When you approach the podium, take a deep breath, relax, breath again. if you stumble, just keep going...eventually you will get on a roll and it will get better.

practice will help....

Answer 6

Practice with a group of your friends that you feel totally comfortable with. When you do have to speak in public, do not look directly at anyone's face. Look just over their head. Practice, practice, practice!!

Answer 7

well i use to be like that but i think u should practice and not think about messing up or anything like that. what i do is think to myself like"if i do this im going to get (something i always wanted) sounds crazy but it worked for me. now i can speak in public all the time but it took lotz of practice.Good luck

Answer 8

my son went to speach theorpy and it works. he speaks way better than before. u must have stuttering problem.its okay if u do have speach problem. everyone is not perfect and can't speak well too. just relax and if people think different about you. then the hell with them.

Answer 9

just relax just figure this, whatever your given your presentation on the people who are listening have noooo clue if your lying or not its all good to them they wont know if what your saying is right or wrong just breath and give it your best