do you think that this would cause a problem in the relashionship i am scared that she might start liking him i trust him alot but i just would not trust this other person do you think this is a good idea please i need help or what else do you think we should do to spice things up?
2006-06-08 10:38:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
in reply to dusty rose were married you think we havent done that already think something exotic. man i wish i had an awesome imagination, the things i would do
2006-06-08 11:05:52 · update #1
oh hell no.... thats why you get married to be with and make love to one person
2006-06-13 12:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as bringing someone else in the relationship, you first need to think on whether or not this is something you both want to do. Keep in mind that if you do it once, one of you may want to do it again while the other may not. This a topic that you both obviously need to openly speak about and have all the details hashed out before proceeding.
You would also need to think about who you would want in the bedroom with your husband. Would you want someone you know and trust? Or someone that you will never see again?
I personally would not advise you to do this because it may leave both of you confused as to how the other person feels, especially if you are not keeping the lines of communication open. You can try toys, having sex in public places, or even just talking about your wildest fantasies without necessarily doing them.
2006-06-08 17:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by astraea82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're marriage is between you and your husband. Of course he would be thinking about it. Why not, he could cheat on you, right in front of you and you would do nothing but be joining in. Here's the deal. See how he woul react or if he thinks it would be just as good of an idea, if you were to bring another man in the bedroom to join you and him, rather than a woman. See how that goes over.
2006-06-08 17:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could cause problems. How fond and in love with your husband are you, these kind of relationships, lead to divorce. They send out the wrong message. Talk it over with him, if this is the route you choose to follow, and you are afraid of bringing in a woman, how about a man, it sounds like your needs are not being met. Try some new sex games, do different things and in different ways. Try oral sex, mutual masturbation, jack him off, let him finger you.
2006-06-08 17:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. You sound like you have big doubts. If you have any doubts, dont do it. All the ppl I know who have done this have ended up with trust issues and seperated because of it. There are lots of ways to spice up your sex life without involving other people.
2006-06-08 17:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your question you state "I just would not trust this other person"I think that should answer your question.
Also marriage is sacred,and bringing other people into your marriage and your bed is wrong,and will have it's price.
More than 2 people in a marriage is not needed to spice things up,the 2 of you can spice it up yourselves.
2006-06-08 17:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've GOT to trust all parties invloved. that's the only thing that works when it comes to multiple partners.
also, try to make sure you and your husband have and maintain very good and open communication. you should also try to have an extremely stable relationship. this is not something that should be done to resolve issues between you, it's only something extra, ya know?
i wish you the BEST of luck. sounds like you're an open-minded individual and i hope everything works out for you
2006-06-09 13:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by water_loves_fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are having doubts about an additional partner than you should definitely focus on spicing up your own sex. Read books, get toys, etc... It is way better to focus on one person, than to have to worry about if he's liking the other or she's digging him. Find an adult store, go there together... Get things you both want to try. If there's doubts in either of you about anything... Don't do it.
2006-06-08 17:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would cause problems down the line. Jealousy will creep in. Your respect for each other will dwindle. Trust won't be there anymore. i t might be fun for a few minutes but would bring long time problems.
2006-06-08 17:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll get hurt. that act will separate both of you from God. you will really find someone you like and his reaction to his another will not hurt you. I hope you know what are the consequences of sin. It is all pain and suffering. It is better to sacrifice this interest that you are both excited about than face the consequences of sin.
2006-06-08 17:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a big possibility that it could lead to a problem... your husband might get used to the fact that he could sleep with another woman.
2006-06-08 17:42:35 · answer #11 · answered by equality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋