Will he have ever realize what he lost?

Question

Me and my husband started working things out but we never really talked about what we both wanted different. Because of our work schedules everything was going great but he started to act like he was going to do whatever he wanted whenever. So 3days ago i got mad and we both decided to just let it go but when we see each other we still want to be together but right now is not the time . He says he does not want to give it another try but i really do not beleive him. Is he serious this time or does he need time to be with his friends to realize what he is losing.

It is very hrd not to run into him. His monther watches our daughter while i work and most of the time he is their. I feel that maybe he should not be there if he nows what time i get her everyday. I am always runing into him.

Answer 1

You never know a good woman until you've been with a bad one. and vice versa. I think that he knows he wants to be with you but he has been down that path before and look where its got him.(just saying whats going on in his head). So he is going to dabble a bit in life, you know go down a few other paths and he will choose the one that fits him best. whether it be you or not its something he needs to do. time my dear time is all we really have.

I suggest you try a couple new paths too and see if there are greater things for you. Has there been something you have wanted to do for a long time but just to scared to go do it. Well nows the time. Go have and quit worring. dogs always find their way back home

Answer 2

While this may be very hard on you I would give him his space, if you keep going after him to try and work things out now, he will feel somewhat trapped and pressured. This will not help you.
Basically you need to stay away, don't call, don't go out of your way to see him. Let him realize what he is missing and let him contact you. It may be a few days, it may be a few weeks but if your going to get him back at all, you have to let him make the first move. Once he does, you can get together and talk somewhere that is comfortable for both of you, possibly a quiet restaurant, not at your house! Just stay very positive and talk about the great things the two of you have done together and could do again! Hang in there though, if you want this to work, you will have to be patient and keep positive hopes!
Good luck

Answer 3

It's an old adage, but a truism, we never miss the water, until the well runs dry.
He may realize what he is missing, or he may not.
Judging by your many differences and his unwillingness to change, I don't hold out much hope for a reconciliation, with you two.
Sometimes you just have to admit defeat and move on, and start a new life for yourself.
So stop fooling yourself, don't you deserve better, for yourself, than someone, who isn't willing to put in the effort to save, what you had.

Answer 4

Be patient and wait and see. Just be yourself and show him what he is missing out on and has lost! He will see it over time trust me. I feel that you both would benefit from marriage counseling! Has he apologized to you at all for the past? If he refuses to work it out and is not pleased to dwell with you then go on with your life!

Answer 5

My advise is try to let go of it. If it's meant to be it will come back. And for your feelings? You two are used to being together and it's hard to break the bonds you had. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Give it some time. Anything worth keeping is not worth rushing.

Answer 7

we never realize what we have till we lose it, and it seems like when we do realize it, its to late, hope u guys work things out, take it from me, loneliness, will eat u alive

Answer 8

maybe yes, maybe know..time will tell, but I doubt that you will ever know, either way. And besides, does it really matter in the long run, ?

Answer 9

give it time. ask him and talk to him. i know how u feel and im afraid my husband wont realize until im gone what he has. u going to have to sit down and talk with him.