I've been married for five years now and I can't get an orgasm with my husband. He tries very hard, but it's not him, it's me. I love him, I really like him, it's only happened two or three times. What can I do?
2006-06-08 10:03:36 · 13 answers · asked by Magy G 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
you are actually trying too hard! you need to be in a great state of relaxation
bring a focus back onto your foreplay and forget about penetration - and by foreplay I mean foreplay - relaxing baths with sensual massage - lots of touching, kissing, romance
just playing with each others bodies with no thought of intercourse
experiment a lot with cl*t stimualtion in different ways and forms - feeling what gives pleasure and what doesnt - teach your husband this ... over time you will both be more relaxed and things will happen
the harder you try the more it will elude you - so forget about and enjoy some sensuality
2006-06-08 10:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
you have to just let go I almost bet that you are too busy worrying about other things like is he liking it or the way you look to let go and do it. Try having your self on top...masturbating helps because you learn what an orgasm feels like and what specific technique makes you have an orgasm and you can teach you husband how to do the samething
2006-06-08 17:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by copsgrl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. Just enjoy the sex. When he is inside you, just think about how nice it feels. If you get nervous, or upset, it's like a man not being able to get an erection, you won't be able to have an orgasm. Just relax and enjoy. As long as you still like to have sex, there's no problem.
2006-06-08 17:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by thepathfinder804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a vibrator! It may sound like a easy and silly little answer but trust me! Get one and get comfortable with it... then if your brave enough share it with your hubby... If he really cares about making you orgasm (and I'm sure he does) He will love the new toy!
Really hon.. I'm serious... get a small one that's not to intimidating and try it.
2006-06-08 17:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can u get an orgasm when u'r husband gives u oral sex??? I would say ask u husban to exercise and get in shape so that he can control his ejuclation and if i he does finishes before you ask him to go down on u again and work on ur g-spot with his toung to suit u'r pleasure. U can also visit http://www.whitelotuseast.com/ and read under female orgasm. hope that helps
2006-06-08 17:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by J B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him put two or three fingers inside you and try to touch your g spot while rubbing your clit with his thumb, My girl gushes when I do this. Hope it helps, Also dont try too hard, just relax and enjoy the feeling.
2006-06-08 17:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and give you self an orgasm by masturbation, then tell him exactly what you did to climax.
2006-06-08 17:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by .357 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that uncommon not to have one during intercourse....but should be achieved manually or orally when ever attempted...if you can pleasure yourself, then you can let your husband know what works for you, if not enjoy experimenting to find out what works.
2006-06-08 17:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably mental. You might consider going to speak to a specialized sex counselor/therapist.
2006-06-08 17:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get oen of those kama sutra books or something, make sur ehe doesnt think its him or he wont perform good anyway, but if you say lets try new things and get freaky, he might be into some of them, and new moves will tingle your jollies
2006-06-08 17:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by woundshurtless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋