They have been separated since 2002. Got back together in 3/2004 and separated again in 5/2004. He and I are/were a couple up until 3 days ago. He wont get a divorce claiming it is because of financial reasons, but I am beginning to differ. He made 123k last year, so why could he not have gotten a divorce? Then, this year his wife had a little girl for suposedly for someone else in the state they live in. I truly believe it is his kid because he did not tell me she was pregnant, but he told her I was. I had to learn of her pregnancy through their 5 year old little boy. I put him out and told him I did not want to be with him until he got a divorce. He begged me to stay, and I did...He gave himself 90 days to have it done, but his 90 days have came. Am I wrong for kicking his behind out ? Please advise.
2006-06-08 09:58:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok OK...clearly yall have it all wrong...I knew him before he was married...we split up....then when him and his wife were going through their separation that is when he and got back in contact with each other....I did not deal with him while he was with her...when I got in contact with him they were living 800 miles apart....he did not cheat on her with me...
2006-06-08 10:18:03 · update #1
oh yeah, and our son is here already..he is 6 months old...
2006-06-08 10:20:47 · update #2
i think he's just having his cake and eating it too. he doesn't want to leave his home life and having to look else where to live, when he's comfortable where he's at, and he knows where to fine you. so its just more suitable for him to stay separated.
i think your right for kicking his butt out, if he's not going to get a divorce then he's not worth the time, its just trouble, with what he is doing. you don't want to get yourself in the middle of it. i know your having a child with this guy, but it doesn't mean you have to be a couple for him to be a father.
he just sounds like bad new, too much baggage to deal with. i wouldn't want to go through the stress of that, having your baby at risk cause of the stress. just leave him be, maybe if you ignore him, he will see you mean business about leaving him and will change his tune.
2006-06-08 10:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were wrong for messing with him while he was married, he is never gonna have but so much respect for you b/c of that choice you and him made together but they seem to always put it on you. messing with a married man shows some kind of statement about yourself, b/c a married man is suppose to be faithful and your playing a part in his unfaithfulness, so it kind of seems to him that you would be unfaithful to that's why he hesitated so long in taking care of his business about getting a divorce, the bigger mistake you made was getting pregnant for him, if he can't be committed to his wife then what makes you think he's gonna be committed to a baby momma or a chick on the side, oh you probably think that cause he cheated on his wife to be with you, he loves you, noooooo............ when a man divorce his wife normally he wants something that he never had before, b/c you were just his excitement for the time he was cheating and now it's not exciting anymore now that he doesn't have to be careful doing it with you.
2006-06-08 17:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by valentine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are not wrong...he needs to be held accountable for his actions. However...a person only gets what they allow to be done to them. So I would ask him to leave, it sounds like you have tried your hardest to stay in this relationship...you have given him an ultimatium and he has let the 90 days pass...I say he probably dosen't believe that you are strong enough to really kick him out. Stay strong...you deserve better!
2006-06-08 17:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by mom2three 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns girl.....if you let him get away with it he will continue to act this way whether it be with his separated wife or maybe someone else down the line. If this baby your pregnant with is his make him be responsible and support him/her.
2006-06-08 17:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong for kicking his butt out but you're wrong if you take him back. What does he have to offer that you think you cannot live without? The lies, the deceit, the cheating? What?? What??
2006-06-08 17:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋