Been married ten years,
My wife doesn't have a problem with me getting playboy, going to stripclubs, email, talking to friends.
2006-06-08 09:45:54 · 35 answers · asked by bigmihoe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have told her it only to meet people as friends, I have never cheated on her and never will. and all the things I have learned from being online, reading playboy, etc. she gets the benefit of. shes mostly upset because I know computer more than her.
2006-06-08 10:08:00 · update #1
She's weired. Your not cheating just because your talking to someone. Now if your kissing or having sex with other people than that's cheating. She needs to get a grip. What are you not allowed to communicate with other humans or something. Come on now. She needs to go see a doctor.
2006-06-08 09:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well if you are not careful you might just meet someone. This is a pretty interesting place. See, your Playboy is a book, it can't talk to you my dear, you just look at it and drool. As far as the strip clubs I think you now better, and she does too. Let's talk about Email "boring" you already know these people, and talking to friends "and". Here you actually meet and talk with all kinds of people. So I hope that you are a strong man, because you could come across someone who will make you think for a second. Much luck to you.
2006-06-08 09:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a wife it would make me suspicious. I am all about meeting people but maybe it finally caught up to her that the playboy, stripclub outtings and everything else could be adding up to something. Maybe she thinks your tired after ten years.
2006-06-08 09:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet_Mimi_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well chatting is a whole different thing than looking at playboy or watching a porno because chatting involves another person. If you are chatting to mostly women with intentions that are less than good and might hurt your wife. then yes I would have to agree with her.But heres a tip why don't you try chatting with your wife more whos sopposed to be you best friend, insted of your online buddies.
2006-06-08 09:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by btre22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female, it sounds to me like she just needs some more of your attention. She probably feels you are giving more of your time to the ppl you are chatting with especially of they are women. Make a point of making her feel very special and loved , maybe even have her get on the computer and see sometimes you just like to talk to people that really can't see you. But I think most importantly you need to show and give her more attention.If you have ever cheated that could be the source of the problem too. I hope this helps and I wish you luck
2006-06-08 09:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by flablueeyes67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The new way of cheating is doing it online - it's so easy to do and it's causing a lot of problems in tons of marriages and relationships. Talk to your wife and be honest with her that you aren't cheating with anyone online. She may just be wondering why you choose to chat with strangers instead of spend time with her. Listen to what she has to say and if she asks you to stop then respect her wishes. Remember, your wife should come before any chat buddies you have online.
2006-06-08 09:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I think you both have a problem. Personally I don't think your relationship is healthy if you feel the need to fill your fantasies with other women... even after 10 years, sex should still mean a deep connection ..if your thoughts are filled with playmates and strippers where can the connection be?
Try to think why you are needing all that..why can't your wife fullfill your fantasies. You two should talk about it.
Good luck!
2006-06-08 09:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be she does have a problem with all those things, but doesn't want to say anything about it. I'd quit the strip clubs / get rid of the playboys and start looking and admiring your wife more. Chances are, you might get her to strip for you if ya do.
2006-06-08 09:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you doubt yourself, then stop. But you should respect your wife's wishes in the first place. After all, you married her, you know if she thinks it she probably believes it... 10 years is a long time to throw away for some random friends online. One innocent doubt can blow up into a big complex later. Try addressing her trust issues. All girls are insecure about losing their man!
2006-06-08 10:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why she would not have a problem with the other things you do that are sex-related. That has always confused me about women. I think that many men would not like their wives to lust after some Chippendale's (is that still around?) guy or Playgirl mag...or have an emotional affair with someone more exciting (because she doesn't know that person well yet)...I think the safest thing to do is not tempt yourself with relationships that very often turn into computer sex.
2006-06-08 09:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her sit with u while ur chatting. Have her join in on the chatting. If u r not cheating, she'll figure it out. Sounds like you have nothing to hide. If you don't, have her join ya.
Hey, jbilwj5, he didn't ask you what the freakin' bible said. He asked what "you" think. Can't you have a unique thought for yourself?
Now get off your pulpet and get your a** down here with the rest of us "sinners." Jeez, I hate that crap.
2006-06-08 10:07:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋