We met a year ago. She tells me she loves me, and can't find a single thing about me that she doesn't like. But she says there's no spark..although our time alone together is always, always wonderful. She even admits that. What can I do, if anything, to convince her, there's more here than she wants to admit to. I know I can't make her love me, but I can't give up either.
2006-06-08 09:38:52 · 18 answers · asked by gentlelover_2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-06-08 09:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone who doesn't love you love you. If it were that easy there'd be alot less miserable people in this world. If, indeed, you guys have a great time together and there is nothing about you she doesn't like then maybe she is just not at the same place you are right now. Ya know? Give it some time. Keep doing what you are doing and see if her feelings grow. It sounds like maybe she is just scared. Has she been hurt before? She may have her guard up. If she continues to want to spend time with you and have you in her life then there is something there that she is enjoying. Give her some time and if she doesn't come around soon then move on. Don't give up, but don't fight a losing battle either. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-08 16:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, bro. Reality is this: When a woman first meets you she will decide whether she will have sex with you or not. Sex is not the main thing in a relationship, but is extremely important. If there is no spark, then it means that she doesn't not find you attractive in that way. How about your finances? If she has ulterior motives you pocket book will make a big difference. Either way. Do you want a weight around your neck or a partner who will bless you in and outside the bedroom?
I GET THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM. Think about this one. Why would you hang on otherwise? There are plenty of other women out there--prettier, cutter, and, OH, YES!!!, desirable. I believe that you just need a little encouragement.. Get going!
Sincerely,
Dr. Love.
2006-06-08 16:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both love eachother, so just keep at it. Continue your relationship and doing things together - as you do this your intimacy level will also grow. Try doing new things together, or going new places together. You can't convince her that theres a 'spark' but you can try to make one.
2006-06-08 16:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything you can do. And, in fact, if you do too much you risk the chance of pushing her away.
Love comes in many forms and also is a living thing. It changes and grows (and even dies).
Be true to yourself. If she loves you and wants to be with you, she will. If she decides there isn't anything there, you'll be the first to know. If not, then it'll fade for both of you.
Don't give up, keep doing what you're doing. There's not much else you can do, sorry. That's my opinion.
2006-06-08 16:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rose S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make someone fall in love with you. If she says there's no spark then there's no spark. Keep being friends and if its meant to be then maybe she will fall in love with you one day.
2006-06-08 16:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she says there is no spark.... THERE IS NO SPARK. she told you all those other things to not hurt your feelings. she likes you BUT.........
need i say more. take a tep back and look at the situation as if it is not you. it hurts but you will be alright. give her some space and she may come back to you.
I hope I am wrong and it works out for you.
2006-06-08 16:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by goldenfour7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you. Love is personal. Take what she is willing to give now. Maybe you will end up together and maybe you won't. Just enjoy what you can share with her.
2006-06-08 16:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by cal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea...there is really nothing that you can do sweetie. No matter how you try, 9 times out of 10 it will end up in heartbreak. So,...as the saying goes...if you love somethin let it go, if it comes back to you its yours, if it doesnt it never was.
2006-06-08 16:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by its meee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not have the heart to tell you. Logically she loves/likes you, but it is not in her heart. Trust me, it is over rated but if the "sparks" are not there , you cannot make them appear!
2006-06-08 16:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by educated guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋