2006-06-08 09:30:34 · 21 answers · asked by rnchele 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, only if he has custody of them.
2006-06-08 09:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by ilgi2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think he can legally do that. If you guys have a court order stating that you guys have to approve trips with the other parent, then yes he can. Who is the custodial parent? Does he have good and valid reason to not want them at your mom's? Could he prove that they are unsafe at your mom's? If he can not prove they are in danger going with you then he has no grounds to deny you the right to travel with your own kids. Is he just being a jackass? Are you living with your mom and he will not let you see them there? If that is the case you should go ahead and file for divorce or a legal separation so you have a court order stating what you and him can do and can't do regarding the kids. Don't let him get away with bullying you around about your children. Stand up for yourself and your kids. Don't let him use them as ammunition to hurt you. Bite the bullet and get a court order.
2006-06-08 16:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separated is not divorced. Until you have official custody papers determining the custodial rights of each parent, you still share joint custody of your children.
He can't really object to you taking the children for an extended VISIT to Grandma's house, but he can rightfully ask that they also spend time at his house. Unless the two of you have worked out some sort of informal agreement about physical custody during the separation, you have no right to keep him away from the children permanently. This will be an important situation to consider when the next school year begins, if your children are that age.
He might just agree to let you have sole physical custody of the children for purposes of maintaining normalcy, but he should be able to visit them when it's convenient to do so.
2006-06-08 16:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation is a mini divorce; make no mistake about it. You and he have the same rights over the children except when their health or moral state is in danger. He may believe that your mother's house may be unfit in some way. You should be totally open in this regard and ask him to answer honestly.
I suggest that you try to reconcile promptly. Get some advice, analyze the situation, and get going. If there is no chance to do so, I suggest that you arm yourself with a good attorney and get ready for battle. Divorces are never easy, specially when children are involved. Marriage is always about the couple first and the children second. If the couple doesn't get along the children will suffer. Think about it.
Mr. M.
2006-06-08 16:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are separated as well...We have an arrangement, between ourselves, that if there is something one of us wants to do with the kids, we talk about it first. Until you are legally seperated, or divorced, he has as much right to them as you do. The worst thing that could happen is you go to pick them up anyway, because you have the right to, but he calls the police and says you are trespassing. I've had that happen too. It's hard enough on the children anyway - so you have to decide what you think is best and just do it.
2006-06-08 16:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by relos2angels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you had the kids and you didn't want him to take them you could make it happen. Now as far as legally usually women get the children but if he's a good father then he may get them. Divorce is a nasty nasty thing My dad went through it twice just try to make the focus the kids unless he's a terrible dad. So many parents try to find ways to hurt each other and they forget about the ones who should mean the most to them.
2006-06-08 16:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if he has possession of the kids and there has not been a custody decision yet. He can also move out of state with them unless there are court papers holding him. Whoever has possession of the kids is the boss until such time custody is determined.
2006-06-08 16:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by MissKathleen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still married you both have custody of your children - which means there is nothing wrong with you taking them to your mom's house with you. You might want to contact a lawyer about your situation and see what you can and can't do as per your state's laws.
2006-06-08 16:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not no but HELL no he can't do that. You go get those kids and if he tries to stop you just bring the cops with you. If your only seperated you both have just as much right to be with the kids as the other.
2006-06-08 16:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can be pre-determined within legal separation child care determination..you have equal rights as your husband unless proven otherwise.
2006-06-08 16:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a visit out of state or province sometimes thay can say no...You need to talk to a lawyer
2006-06-08 16:51:12 · answer #11 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋