Should you have sex before you're married? Why or why not?
2006-06-08 09:23:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you have a mutual physical attraction with someone, you need to decide two things.
1) By holding off on the physical side of things too long are we in lust with someone instead of in love? In other words, by not giving into the physical stuff, we sometimes think (or hope) a person is truly compatible with us when really we are so fixated by eventually gettin it on, we never get the chance to get to the real realationship and find out.
2) By having a physical relationship too soon, we can easily establish false emotions to a person we don't actually know very well.
The answer is this. Depending on your religious views, having sex is something to be done at the right time in the realationship based upon mutual caring and respect. Don't let someone "get down your pants" because they want it. Have a meaningful first encounter. Only you can determine the right timing for that.
2006-06-08 09:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by jimanywhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage can be sticky becz u wont know if the guy is using you or is really into marriage issue ... So u can see lot of women now are opening their legs before s marriages ..Men promised them for a future goal for "M". but most of the times, when they do it .. whats the point of marrying you since sex is past to their satisfactory.. thats why it important to have sex after marriage .. but it deoends on what kind of guy you are with.. some cases are successful that they had sex before marriages and still get married afterwards.. soo
2006-06-08 09:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by sunnya4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should not. Wait till you are married. You will be healthier, mentally, physically and emotionally.
You won't have as many problems in your marriage either. Marriage is not about making sure you "test drive" your partner or have "compatible" sex lives or whatever.
What is really sad is if you feel that marriage is mainly about having sex....that explains why half of the marriages fail: False Expectations.
2006-06-08 09:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Timinator.3000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends 100% on what you thik sex is....... If sex means nothing more than pleasure and a way to show compassion then it doesn't matter. if you look at sex in the form in which it was meant to be then NO. I believe sex is suppose to be the ultimate thing you can do for the one you love. Having sex is a way to become one, Philosophically. Sex is the ultimate form of affection, the most important form of love. So again, it all depends on what sex means to you.
2006-06-08 09:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by soccerplayinjuggalo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Would you buy a car without driving it first? Finding out what all the options are and whether you liked how it feels to you?
Of course not. So go for it. Marriage is supposed to be forever.
That a long time to have a lousy sex life.
2006-06-08 09:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in God, don't have sex outside of marriage and pray about the relationship. Test driving is only for people who don't trust in His almighty power. God will help you guys out on the wedding night if you don't know what to do.
If you don't believe in God, then go ahead and have sex because all elements of a relationship need to be compatiable in a non religous relationship for it to work.
2006-06-08 09:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by xtraluvly03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's totally up to the people involved in the relationship. But just FYI my wife and I did and we've been married 8 years as of today.
2006-06-08 09:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by catmanbigwil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends. if you are emotionally stable and mature enough to handle the situation. sex is a very emotional thing for some people. do you feel comfortable and/or ready when the time may happen. do understand the consequences of what may happen. will you be smart about the deal. if, god forbids, the girl gets pregnant, are the both of you repsonsible to accept repsonsibility.
2006-06-08 09:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by goldenfour7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, One should have a plan for their lives...Be the kid your suppose to be, listen to your parents they've been there done that, don't grow up any faster than you have to...bf/gf will come sooner or later...choose a partner wisely that fits your plan, get engaged/ marry....share your love and intimacy with your partner..have children..and teach them what you've learned up to this point in your lives...and live happily ever after....why not?
2006-06-08 09:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Sex should be something special, something that is specially shared between two people.
Not something to bring a moment of pleasure because you're |-|orney.
I think people should only have sex when they're ready to have kids.
Besides, waiting will make it special.
2006-06-08 09:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by RandonPerson1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋