For 10 years he said many horrible things to me, didn't financially support us, prevented us from going to church, and physically abused my brother occasionally. When I turned 19, he kicked us out. My mother is homeless so he knew we had nowhere to go. Last year he married a Christian lady and is now wants to be in my life. I have forgiven him, but I don't know if he's changed truly just because he married a Christian. Should I allow him back in my life?
2006-06-08 09:21:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have to always ask yourself this question when sticky FAMILY matters happen-"If this person were a friend or an aquaintance what would I do if they did this to me?". There is your answer. Just because people are in your blood line does not give them a free pass to do bad things to you. It is unfortunate, but you are not obiligated just because your sperm doner dad is a jerk!
2006-06-08 09:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by educated guess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give your father a chance. You can allow him back in your life with certain boundaries set up. Make sure you control the shots though. Just keep testing the waters. Only you know if it will work out. Use your best judgement.
2006-06-08 09:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! i think really undesirable for you. i'm getting said as stuff with assistance from my mom and father in arguments like 'fat cow' and 'gruesome bi***" which i take to heart, and so i comprehend how undesirable you need to sense. What you need to imagine is, in case your gruesome (i guess your not) then your mom and father ought to also be, as you've their genetics. when you're fat then it should be your mom and father fault and that i imagine they devour a similar as you so that they ought to also be in the adventure that they have got a similar foodstuff regimen. and finally when you're stupid, what have they performed with their lives. (i wish they don't look to be superheros or large wealthy) you've your complete destiny earlier than you, you may want to do some thing, what have they were given left to attain, have they ever done some thing. next time they call you some thing merely imagine that they are no extra effectual than you. you are able to also commence joking besides, call your dad moley (if he has many moles) or discover out from grandparents if he ever had a nickname he hated. Do it in a joking way, then your mom and father will quickly recognize that additionally they don't love being said as names. often times you need to strive against fireplace with fireplace, no count number what human beings inform you. i wish this stops quickly for you :)
2016-11-14 09:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Since they have emotionally scarred you and your family. You and your family should not let him back into your life. Who knows, what if he does the same to this other lady that he just married. What if he does it again. The answer is no, child. That is not forgivable.
2006-06-08 09:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by mekkimaru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what your heart tells you. If its to try do so slowly and if it turns out things have not changed you can always back off again.
2006-06-08 09:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
neh..
2006-06-09 04:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋