i have been dating this guy for 3 1/2 months and before that we talked for almost 2 months. he is convinced im the one for him and he wants to marry me. hes already popped the question but i havent given him a definite answer. i feel really strongly for this guy. i love him a lot. but is it too soon to start thinking bout spending the rest of our lives together? HELP!!!
2006-06-08 09:20:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If this is someone that you think you could spend the rest of your life with- it doesnt mean you can't accept his proposal- just have a LONG engagement. Just be aware of him and the things he does. I believe that people should be together for at least 2 years before they actually get married- good luck and don't do it if you have any doubts!
2006-06-08 09:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way, tell him so. DON'T rush into a marriage because if you guys do decide to get devorced, the paper work and the 6 month waiting period afterwards is more of a pain than the marriage itself. So be smart. What I suggest, is go live with him and from there you'll know the truth about him. If you don't like the way he is, then maybe marriage isn't the right thing.
Also, the reason why men propose is because they want to marry you. You are the ultimate decider in this situation. You know his answer, it's up to you now. If you say no, no big deal. If he's an understanding guy he'll wait, if not, then that may be an aspect of him that you want to look into because once you're married EVERYTHING changes. So make the right decision that you won't regret. Hope this helped.
2006-06-08 16:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by dukeofhmong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just told us!
Tell him that you feel strongly for him, and you DO love him, but it's too soon. You need time, because Marriage is a BIG step. Tell him to think of you like you'll look when you're 85 or 90, all baggy skin, tired eyes, not able to take care of yourself.
Make sure he gets that mental picture.
Then ask him if he still wants to marry you.
Then think about his answer.
And give it at least a year or two.
2006-06-08 16:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by RandonPerson1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it's too soon then tell him how you feel. Keep in mind that getting engaged doesn't mean you have to get married right away. There is nothing wrong with being engaged for a year before setting a wedding date. If you feel strongly for him, maybe accept his proposal and tell him that you want to be engaged to him for a minimum of 6mo or a year (Whatever you decide) and then you will be ready to get married. Best of luck with whatever you decide!
2006-06-08 16:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love knows nothing of time. If the only apprehension you have about marrying him is that it's too soon. Then accept his engagement and tell him you don't want to set a date until you're ready. If you have other doubts. Talk about them with him and if he really wants to marry you, he'll try soothe all your doubts and fears. I wish you two the best!
2006-06-08 16:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by xtraluvly03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and talk with him and ask why is he so ready to get married really quick. You both need time to know each other and really see if you love one another. Ask questions find out about his family what they are like meet them. You say you love him but are you in love with him? Grow with him first before you make that final decision to marry him.
2006-06-08 16:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by solange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a question for you, when you first met him what was your first reaction, meaning your feelings then. Then you should compare your feelings for him now to then, and if they are still the same go for it, if not, take some more time to think about it. in the end you'll know what right, cause when it comes time to answer your heart will speak for you not your head.
2006-06-08 16:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to ask you again in a year. He should know better than to rush it. Tell him your feelings for him now are strong, and if you two are ment to be together they will only get stronger with time. Then you will both know when the time is right.
2006-06-08 16:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not yet ready for such a big commitment date for a while longer get to know him before you make that decision .. good luck
2006-06-08 16:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you want different things , He wants to get married NEXT SATURDAY but you want to spend time and enjoy a relationship first. its ok. u are not a robot , u are a human being with feelings . let him know how u feel
2006-06-08 16:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by poposco2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋