What can I do so that my wife wants to have more sex with me?

Question

She has sex with me. But I often feel she is only doing it for my benefit.

What will make her want me more?

In our dating life, we had sex 4-5 times a day sometimes. Now its 4-5 times per week.

Please don't say to help with the housework. I do that already. I also run 25 miles a week and im in fairly good shape. I cook dinner and help out a lot most nights. I also take her kids whereever they need to go and so on (this is both our 2nd marriage).

some of you are plain out missing the point

the point is not how often we have sex, the point is that she acts as if it is a chore to do it

and i am romantic all the time, i send love notes and emails and all that

Answer 1

You really do believe in having your cake and eating it, don't you?? You are asking way too much of her. She's got the schedule and demands from hell, but still is willing to accommodate you (she must really love you) 4-5 times per week, and on top of that she has to want it?? Are you crazy - women's bodies don't work that way!

You've got a choice: either continue having sex as often as you do (and believe me, it IS often) and learn to live with the fact that she IS just doing it to service you (and pray she doesn't stop), OR
Back off and give her chance to at least get in the mood once in awhile on her own. You might be surprised at the results if you show some restraint and stop thinking about your own needs.

Answer 2

Still doing it 4-5 times a week? Lucky you! Must couples do it 4-5 times a month! Most do it 4-5 a year! Stop complaining!

Want more? Get a babysitter, yes you! don't expect her to do everything and still get in the mood. After that then take her to to a nice hotel or bed and breakfast away from work, kids, laundry, bills, dogs, cats, dishes, groceries, homework, etc. Yes, we women are people too, you know, and we get also tired after working for 9 hours a day and then come home to be a mother, cook, teacher, and lover. I commend your wife for STILL find time to satisfy your selfish self.

You are unbelievable. Dude, count your blessings.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Sometimes life gets in the way of a couple's togetherness. You help out, which is good, but try to focus on having some time together in the evenings for just the two of you. Pre-bed bonding can stimulate other feelings and get the focus back on the two of you again. It's not gone, it's just pushed to the back burner as other things take priority. Sometimes you have to remind each other that your relationship should always stay a priority.

Answer 4

Well you are already doing most things I was going to suggest, but left off one important thing. Do you guys ever go out without the kids? Get a sitter and go on a date. Now, if that does not work, then it may be time to spice things up a bit. Chicks are big on fantasy, guys visual. Try some softcore porn, or take her to a strip club. Take a vacation to an adult resort. Buy her a sexy dress. In other words start dating again.

Answer 5

Count your blessings if you still get it 4-5 times a week. Before i was married i got it 4-5 times a night, then it went to 4-5 times a week, now it's once a month. I been married for 17 years. So in my book you've got it good friend.

Answer 6

When was the last time you made LOVE to her? Not sex but love. Its not about the housework or taking the kids or any of that it about showing her attention in the bedroom....you have to put effort into making sex amazing so it dosent get old. Do something that you have never done before.....and believe me from personal experiences it works.

Answer 7

well it is because you are a creep and a greedy selfish prick and she has noticed this and no longer feels about you the way she once did so get rid of her and get a new love intrest that doesnt know you as well as the first two wifes do now.you war mongering evil waste of life.Maybe you can get a gun fly to the middleeast and help lower gas prices . this will help your wife to miss you while you are gone or are you affraid she will bang every guy in the neighbor hood while you are away you in moral hippocrit second marriage split up amily and you consider your self to be a conservative i am sure .grow up like all conservatives and stop thinking with your dick .

Answer 8

I say count your blessings you are getting it that often, don't push your luck! Come on what person with a job and kids has time to do it 4/5 times a day?!? YOu need help.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are doing all you can.
If it seems like it's a chore for her it could be because you have sex more often than she desires it.
You could wait till she makes a move on you, then you know it's her wanting it.
The flip side is you probably have sex less frequently but you will know she is wanting it.
From my experience woman want sex more often if they are feeling happy with you and are content and relaxed.
Goodluck!

Answer 10

You're such a moron. 4-5 times a week is most guys dream come true. Your poor wife, I'm sure she has more to do than spread her legs and shower, spread her legs and shower. Crap, she got kids at home, and a job. for goodness sake, whack your weenie if you need to have an orgasm every 5 hours.

Answer 11

I don't know your situation but I live believing that foreplay begins when you wake up. What do women like and deserve? Attention, affection, and good communication. If any of these are missing then try it. Also, leave her romantic letter that she can find. See if this works.