I dated this guy who introduced me to spanking. We played around with it a few times just to get me used to it. I enjoyed it very much. One day he took me and forced me over his knee and gave me a really good one - It was extremely sexual as he would let his hands wander between swats. Now I crave them. I am no longer dating the guy any more and the guy I am currently dating playfully spanks me but it is not nearly as sexual as I would like. Any ideas as how I can "guide" him into giving me the spanking I long for and deserve?!?!?
2006-06-08 08:13:27 · 9 answers · asked by Topaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Drill some holes in your paddle,it will make it faster and leave a better sting.
2006-06-12 02:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Roscoe0150 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good Spanking Classics
2016-12-17 17:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by maffia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think being an alpha male would have anything to do with your sexual preferences? It is a recognized phenomenon in the BDSM community that many people who are publicly dominant are privately submissive, someone who needs to stay in control the rest of the time frequently needs the emotional release of surrendering once in a while. It would also be a mistake to assume that getting paddled as a child had anything to do with your developing an erotic response to it, far too many people got that kind of treatment with no such effect for there to be a connection, and, for the record, a love of spanking is a paraphilia not a fetish, a fetish is erotic response to an object not an act. As to finding a life partner who shares your interest, most cities have clubs or social groups for people who share your interest, women you meet there will be much more receptive to a man sharing those kinds of needs. Just bear in mind that bottoms outnumber tops by a factor of around ten to one so the competition for a attractive female dom is fierce, you need to expect to have to work for her attention. You also need to understand that a woman who is attracted by your public persona as an alpha male is going to be the kind who wants you to dominate her, not the other way around. That is probably why they tend not to have any interest in suddenly being asked to shift roles. It's been my own experience that if you are up front about for what you are looking before you become sexually active in the relationship you have a much better chance of success since the lady will know what to expect going in, then if she doesn't leave at once you can start a more up front negotiation. Good luck.
2016-03-15 01:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out some of the spanking sites that run stories - SIN, Our Castle, or Spanking Classics are all good ones. Find a few stories that describe the kind of spanking you think you'd like, in terms of how hard, how long, how sensual, what kind of build-up, role-playing or dialogue, etc, etc. Then print them out and show them to your b/f, or leave them lying about where he'll see them. With luck, if he's an intelligent guy he'll soon get the message.
2006-06-11 06:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Show him the websites--
Taken In Hand: (http://www.takeninhand.com/)
or Loving Domestic Discipline: (http://lovingdd.blogspot.com/)
There are several domestic discipline Yahoo groups as well. If you're a Christian, the Christian Domestic Discipline Yahoo Group is excellent.
You are not alone. Many, many women crave a spanking from their man. They want to know the man in their life is in charge. I used to think of this as a quirk or something wrong. Now I think it's just the way we're made.
2006-06-08 08:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello Topaz, how about playing the naughty school girl?
Put on a very short plaid skirt, your tallest heels and a blouse.
Go into the principals office and tell him you have been very naughty! Start swearing at him! Tell him he's the worst principal ever! Once your over his knee and he is spanking you, tell him, is that the best you can do? Give it to me!
My wife and I enjoy this also and I love being the principal.
You just have to get him worked up to give it to you the way you want it.
Have a spankin good time!
2006-06-08 08:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spanking between consensual adults is a lot more common than you think.It can be a lot of fun,but he can't read your mind as to what your needs are,so let it come up in a conversation.
2006-06-09 04:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by tommyboy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're old enough, take him to an educational bdsm club when they are teaching erotic spanking.
Or....
you could spank him to show him how.
You're lucky in that you have an open and obviously intelligent mind. There is quite a world of fun that you and your mate are in for. have fun!!
2006-06-08 08:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must be in form of real roleplay and not just in a fun fashion to be into the real mode and real enjoyment
2006-06-12 23:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by hard_cane0 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If being naughty is what you like then when you do it again look back at him and tell him to do it how you like it. saying what you want during sex is how you communicate your needs. If he loves you he wont have any hang ups about it. he will want to please you.
2006-06-08 08:28:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋