i know this sounds really silly and dumb but it really hurts. my "best friend" totaly blew me off today. me and her go to practice every morning at 9 for cross country. we usually do stuff afterwards like go to her house and hang out. but today was different. me and her talked about going to the country club to swim one day this week after practice. but today when practice was over i though everybody was going home and not going to do anything. she even told me we wern't doing anything today... to my face. but when she left with my other girlfriends and drove off... some guys on my team were talking about swimming. i was like what??? we are doing something? and they said yea you arent going? and i said no. i found out all the girls went to her house and ate lunch and went to swim. what can i say to her tomorrow or should i just like ignore her. i'm not overreactting about this it happened very dramaticly today. i feel like i did something wrong. i need advice!! please!! what do i say?
2006-06-08 08:10:01 · 22 answers · asked by ashboo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanks ash!!
2006-06-08 08:31:27 · update #1
Your note reminds me why I am so glad I am not in high school. Hang in there.
2006-06-08 08:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, this is all a part of growing up. Don't ignore her. Talk to her and tell her that you feel hurt about being left out. Ask her if she had a special reason for leaving you out. Maybe the whole thing was just a misunderstanding--she may not have realized it would make you feel bad. That is why you shouldn't assume. Best of luck to you, love. I hope all goes well with you and your friend.
2006-06-08 08:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem. It is hard to see someone that you are so super close to just leave you hanging out to dry. Basically you should just call her and talk to her about it. I mean if she is any kind of friend then she will listen to what you have to say and reason with you. Do the girls she left with like you? If not then they probally told her some stuff that is very damaging. If they do them ask them if you can hang out with them tomorrow. Basically just try to talk to her about it and listen to her side and then tell her your side. Meet in the middle with each other. It really helps if you do that. Lastly cross country ROCKS!
2006-06-08 08:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your best friend would do something so rude and cowardly to you. What she did was TOTALLY wrong there are NO excuses for leaving out your best friend. she should always be by your side, especially if you two always hang out after practice. Talk to her, tell her how you feel. If you don't like the response she gives you. Cry for a while and then pray to God to send you a new, true, brave best friend.
2006-06-08 08:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by xtraluvly03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be overreactting alittle ithink u should ask her about the party and if she says she did do that then ask why but if she makes a big deal about it then just ignore her for like 2 days or so and if she starts beging for you to talk to her then forgive he but if she doesnt care then she really isnt ur friend sorry if it ends up that way.
2006-06-08 08:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she has an eye for a guy and doesn't want you to be there, hopefully that isn't the case. But that is pretty creepy to do to someone. She seems to me to be different a certain group of people, and different around other people. I would confront her and ask her what is going on. Find out quickly, but don't be rude or any of the sort, be calm and figure out what is going on here.
2006-06-08 08:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfotunately, this girl is not your true friend. she obviously left you for other friends, true friends would never do that. i have met so many friends in my life... countless of them. and so far, i have only found 2 true friends -- and we lasted for years. one of them i have been friends with for 17 years, we've been friends since we were 7 years old. that's why we were joking around that if one of us was a guy, we could have been married by now.
when i was younger, i have met "bad friends" just like yours. i know it's annoying when people tell you to just "ignore her" because how could you? you feel hurt by what she did... you thought she was your best friend and she left you. what i honestly think is that you should just leave her and find new friends. find friends who will treat you nicely. one of the common mistakes people make when making friends is trying to be friends with people they think are "cool" or "popular" because they want to be cool and popular as well. but don't you think that when you do that, you're also being a bad friend for using them for that? no friend is perfect, but one of the qualities that you need to look for in a friend is respect. and that is one quality that you should offer also in return. so just forget about your old friend and move on. make more friends... you are young, you have every time in the world.
2006-06-08 08:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by PC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters friends dont treat friends like that. You dont need friends like that? You should walk up to her and say hey the boys asked if I was going swimming and I said no. Then ask her did I do something wrong or did I offend you in anyway if so please tell me.
2006-06-08 08:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is NOT your best friend. She is self-centered and sees you as a threat. That's a HUGE compliment to you. You are far more mature than her and most likely have a greater personality! Let her know you found out thru others and you do not wish to continue your friendship with a person who is deceitful.
2006-06-08 08:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Firefighter EMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely try to talk to her about this, if you really are good friends like you say, she shouldn't do something like that to you. You need to tell her that she really hurt your feelings and that you don't understand what you did to deserve that. If you want to stay friends with her this is the only way it's going to work you need to talk.
2006-06-08 08:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try confronting her aboutit in private because maybe she doesnt want o be your friend anymore and dont know how to tell you or maybe she just was hanging out with some people you dont like ar are not comfortable around just ask her to see waht she says
2006-06-08 08:14:32 · answer #11 · answered by sweetandthick42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋