I just has a miscarriage/D&C ( 1 week ago) due to what the doctor said was a blighted ovum. Is it normal to be so depressed and cry at the drop of a hat? I wanted my baby very much and the news was very hard for me to take. Also, if any of you had a miscarriage, how long did it take you to get pregnant again? My doctor told me to wait a month before we try again... that seems like an eternity.
2006-06-08 08:02:42 · 20 answers · asked by Pren 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
i know it seems hard now but you will get through it. i have had 2 miscarriages before and i have 2 wonderful kids now. i lost my first pregnancy at 17 weeks! it was very very hard, i mourned my loss very hard for a year and that's when i got pregnant again and lost my 2nd. i felt angry, sad, depressed....i felt like seeing another baby was a painful reminder of the babies i had lost but i just told myself it wasn't time. this was god/nature's way of saying it's just not the right time for me. and now i have a wonderful son and beautiful daughter. everything you are feeling is totally normal. i personally think that you should wait to give your body time to heal and everything before you try again and also give yourself some time to emotionally overcome the loss of your first child before trying again. it's always better to make decisions when you are of sound mind. be strong and hang in there!
2006-06-08 08:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by origchick 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I had a blighted ovum as well. I found out at 9 weeks. Basically it means that sperm and egg met, but did not turn into an embryo. I felt pretty bad after my d&c as well. It took a month or 2 to ealize that it was natures way of saying that it was for the best. I got pregnant again4 months later. They say wait one cycle before trying again
2006-06-08 15:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal to grieve like that. I was sad for so long, and cried over everything. After that, I didn't try to get pregnant again for a very long time, but that was a choice due to other things that were going on in my life at the time. A month does seem like a long time when you are in that situation, but you need that month to get your body more closely to normal before you try again. I'm sorry this has happened, you need time.
2006-06-08 15:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by ANGELa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have miscarried twice (both at around 6 weeks). It did not hit me as hard either time as it seems to have you. I knew it was God's way of letting me know that, that particular baby may not have had a healthy life. I was pregnant again one month after each miscarriage. I now have two very healthy children.
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2006-06-08 15:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait a full cycle to start trying again it will be easier on your body.
Your hormones are still geared up for pregnancy, so along with your sorrow over your lost pregnancy you'll be more emotional all around.
You will find ways to comfort yourself over your loss. And there will be other opportunities to carry a full term child!
Finding someone who can sympathise, or a friend who's understanding can also help.
If you are stressed and worked up over this loss you will not be healty and or able to concieve again until your body is sure its safe. Just allow yourself to move on and start thinking about the child your planning on concieving, it will need a healthy emotionaly secure body in which to grow. Provide it with what it needs.
Exercise, eat right, and get enough sleep. Take care of yourself!
2006-06-08 15:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss..I too had a miscarriage at nine weeks and it was a natural(no dnc needed)..I was hurt and its very normal to be sad and depressed..You will overcome it with time...
I didnt get my period back for nearly 10 weeks afterwards...I dont want to alarm you but it can take it time..
Go with your doctor and wait one cycle, you will feel much better knowing that you waited..
Before you know it you will be able to try again
I wish you all the best and good luck with future pregnancies..
2006-06-08 15:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your miscarriage, it is perfectly normal to feel sad, angry, afraid, but you have to have faith, also, I heard that is better to wait at least three months before getting pregnant again, your body and mind need a rest.
2006-06-08 19:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Edith Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a misscarrage with my first pregnancy, and I was a total wrek until I got pregnate again... 3 months later. you just have to remember that that child was not ment to be. for whatever reason, it was not healthy, not because of you, but things just happen. A misscarrage is your body's way (and some people believe God;s way) of makming sore you deliver the healthiest baby you can. dont worry, it will be ok, and when you do have your baby, you will be thankfull that you were blessed with that one. good luck.
2006-06-08 15:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by chelseamom1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been a while but I have had one miscarriage and my first daugther was born at 5mos. and her lungs were not fully developed. She weighted 1lb. 9oz. but back then they didn't know how to save them. I just believe that it was for the best for my daughter because she would of suffered so much with much illness. But any way, sweety you need to greive for your lose before you go on to getting pregant again. God Bless.
2006-06-08 15:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by newwingsfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im very sorry to here this and i know you want to try again asap but you really should wait a couple months to build up your wall linings and everything inside of you. if you wait 3 months it will go back to normal and everything will be strong and healthy to hold another baby. if you try asap in a month you may msscarry again because your uterus, etc. might still be weak
2006-06-08 15:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋