My husband and I have been trying to concieve on and off for about a year and a half. It has been a real emotional struggle and on this past mothers day they were acknowleding mothers at our church and it was hard to watch. They had the sweet songs playing and the whole bit. I was there with my mom and we both started crying. I feel that she was crying because she feels bad for me too but i also feel that she is taking it toward her to blame. I don't want to hurt any more and I don't want other to people to feel bad for something that God has not blessed my life with yet. Please, do you have any advice?
2006-06-08 07:52:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I had a miscarriage nine years ago and then watched seven babies be born into my family so i understand how you feel. My husband and I tried the whole time with no luck. Finally I bought a Clear Blue Easy Fertility Monitor and was pregnant four months later. It was definitly worth the money. It keeps up with your cycle from month to month and tells you what days to test for ovulation and shows when you are ovulating.
2006-06-10 18:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ammie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you both gone to a fertility specialist yet? You should both get tested to make sure his sperm count is ok, and if you have and tubal scarring or other problems. After that, you'll know if there are any issues that hinder a pregnancy. Sometimes the best thing to do is relax and quit trying so hard. Once you get happy and unstressed, a pregnancy will just happen. But don't get discouraged. Its all just about timing. Just because you are trying doesn't mean it'll happen really fast. Some women just take several years. But if you go to a doctor and get both of you checked out, you'll at least know what you are dealing with.
2006-06-08 15:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you nothing but the best of luck, what I found works really well when going through that is to keep an "infertility journal", kind of a scrap book that's about how you feel and what you've tried and anything you hear of that you'd like to try. I've seen some really beautiful ones at the clinic that I work in, also it gives the women something else to do orther than feel bad, I would recomend checking out local craft stores and if you have a scrap booking shop, check it out. Just think, maybe once you've practiced with your journal, maybe one day you can make a book for your baby!! Best of Luck and Gods Bless!!
2006-06-08 15:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tulip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine has been trying to get pregnant for several years. She has tried fertility drugs. She eventuall stopped trying so hard and got off the fertility drugs and ended up getting pregant on her own. You cannot ruch God. When he feels it is the right time to bless you with a baby then it will happen. It may not even be your own biological baby. There are so many unwanted children in this world that need loving homes. Maybe that is what is meant for you. You could also be tested to see if something is wrong with one of you. I just said a prayer for you. Don't give up hope.
2006-06-08 14:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was trying to get pregnant for few years too. i was also depressed and felt like i was not able to have babies but six years later i did become pregnant. just don't worry and stress over it because i did the whole time. finally when i did get pregnant it was unexpected. i stopped thinking about me getting pregnant because every month it would just be disappointment. i know it is hard but that may be a reason why you haven't got pregnant. to reassure yourself that everything is okay, you might want to have your doctor order a hsg. it is a test that they do to check that your tubes are not blocked. if you a hmo insurance ask for a referral to see a fertility Dr. or if you a ppo just look in your area where you live for fertility Dr. and go see him. maybe that is what you need so you can know if anything is wrong. good luck!
2006-06-08 18:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by gm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say keep trying because there are so many ways to conceive children nowadays. If you really want something go after it. I understand your hurting, and the people around you are sad, but you have to keep your spirits up! Thinking good thoughts, and having people praying for you will seriously help your problem! Have you thought about adopting? I know its not the same as having your own baby, but there are a lot of babies that need good homes! Maybe that is God's plan for you!?
2006-06-08 15:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by maward4881 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's meant to be it will happen. But if you can't stand not having a baby while you wait adopt of find a surrogate mother that will help you out.
2006-06-08 15:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up hope. quit trying so hard. just go back to enjoying each other. you can't do anything for your mother. how she feels is her choice not yours. if her attitude stresses you, tell her that she's not helping. she should be able to understand that.
go back to being married and in love. you won't believe what happens.
2006-06-08 15:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by bardmere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is doing this for a reason, everyhting will happen when it is meant to happen. i'll keep you in all my prayers! god bless and good luck! love, angelica
2006-06-08 14:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by lil_bit_a_evrythang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋