2006-06-08 07:49:49 · 17 answers · asked by tlm411 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I have the exact opposite problem. My wife has no desire to have sex with me. Can we trade? that would make everyone happy right?
2006-06-08 07:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by zqizzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call me.... I'll fill in for him!!
haha..
Ok now that I got my little "poke" in there I will give ya my honest opinion.
If you've been married for 4 years. How was the sex life to begin with? Was he always kind of laxed in that department? Or was he a "typical" man and want it all the time? Believe it or not there's some guys that just aren't that involved in sex. Few, very few guys but they are out there. If, in fact, he once was the horny guy that most of us are and he not any longer.... My first thoughts....
I would have to guess that he's getting it from someone else. However, before jumping to conclusions... Let me ask this... Is it possible that he may be bored with the sex life you two have created? Do you ever try anything different? If you two have fallen into that "rut" then he may not be as interested. Try some new things!!!
Most important of all.... Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. And if all else fails... I would suggest some marriage counselling. Good Luck!!
2006-06-08 08:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by drifet_18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may need to see his doctor. You do not say how old he is...makes a big difference. Some guys just have a low sex drive their entire lives, some guys fade out in the stretch, some guys are over the top...no two are alike. If there is nothing wrong, you two need to work out some compromises with the toy man...he needn't perform, but he certainly can be a participating member in the fun. There is really no reason you cannot be happy with some attitude adjustments on both your parts...hell, it may turn out to be quite a journey before it is over....good luck to you both.
2006-06-08 07:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek Marriage Guidance, Divorce or Cheat. If you waited untill you were married before experiencing sex with him, there you go, live with it.
Sex can be up to 50% of a healthy relationship.
Communication with one's partner is essential.
Many married couples get their sex elsewhere and it keeps their marriage going. If you have children, their stability via a stable homelife is the priority, unfortunatly, so you have to work around that.
(btw, the more info you give, the more chance you'll have of a better informed answer.)
Good luck.
2006-06-08 07:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by googlywotsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite problem but can certainly understand how you feel. I have tried all kinds of different approaches to the problem but I continue to get rejections, excuses and what not.
I can be positive that in my situation, there is not another person taking my place, so don't believe all those suggestions that your spouse is getting "it" elsewhere. Then again, the problem has me wondering if I should seek it elsewhere. Sex is important to a marriage, and important to adult men and women in general. Good luck with your answers
2006-06-08 08:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by choppercam1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either impotent, or getting it from somewhere else...You can always buy a vibrator, so you won't cheat on him, and take care of the problem that way, or you can always ask your hubby if he would like to watch or even assist you with doing it, believe it or not, most guys like it when their wives take the initiative in the bedroom to spice things up. If that doesn't help, I would say it is time for some marriage counselling, and if he refuses to go, time to go see an attorney...Best of Luck to you.
2006-06-08 07:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by tennessee_cherokee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the harder you push to have sex the less likley he is going to be turned off. I am going through the same issue ( I am Male) I have lost my sex drive for my wife and when she gets pushy it honestly makes me feel ill. Sorry I wish I could help you becuase it could help me save my marrige that is speeding down hill.
2006-06-08 09:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by dwayneburkett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably still having sex, just not with you. Is there any indication of cheating? And if so, would you take him back if he was? Confront him about it, don't be sneaky- just straightforward. Say- we haven't had sex for x amount of weeks/months/years- are you cheating?
2006-06-08 07:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he is over tired from work. Maybe he wants to have relations with you but is just to danm tired to perform. Have there been any significant changes in your relationship lately?
It does not always mean that he's not in to you or is getting it somewhere else.
2006-06-08 08:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by nick h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to find out what his problem with you is. Sometimes we have issues but dont communicate with them. The other thing is that he is probably sleeping with someone else.
2006-06-08 07:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋