My husband feels I always get more attention from people when we are together. Also, I always work very hard to achieve and people notice it - in whatever I do. I dont do this consciously, but that's the sort of person I am. Earlier he would encourage me to dress up my best. Now a days he says - dont dress up so - its too much. But he always compliments me when I look good. We have known each other since we were teenagers. Our married life is 25 years old. For the past several years, he sought female attention by chatting on the internet. He also met many of them without my knowledge. We have sorted out this issue between us now, but I feel he still has some contact with atleast a few of them. When I had questioned him why he did it, he said, it was not for sex, but for the attention he got as he was being humourous on the chat. Something he said was missing with me. I told him that it was missing from my side because he had been an alcoholic for 20 years that kept me away
2006-06-08 07:42:55 · 7 answers · asked by Somebody 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him all the attention girl. My advise is to don't give him any reason to look for attention somewhere else. Anybody will do that. I give my husband all he asks for that he has no reason to look for it somewhere else. He has it all with me.......
Don't loose him over that.....And have him stop with the internet, that will cause BIG problems in the long run...
2006-06-08 07:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally my opinion is that this is his problem. sure he chats with other women and is funny and charming, i'd just tell him if you were funny and charming when you were with me then you would get my attention too. tell him if he put the same effort into the conversations he has with you then perhaps you would react the way they do. i'm sorry i don't mean to offend your husband but he sounds like a weak minded loser to me and it sounds like you have put up with a whole bunch of crap from him (alcoholism and infidelity) that you didn't deserve, it sounds like you conduct yourself at much higher standards than he does and he's trying to drag you down to his level so he can keep up with you. i wish you luck but i also believe you deserve much better than what you are getting from him.
2006-06-08 07:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him . If a guy cheated on me I would dump him the second I knew. But if he gets angry when u look good then he is obviously jealous of u. But I personally hate anyone who is an alcoholic. If i were in your position I would leave him.
2006-06-08 07:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by kmmswimma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a husband and as a man we do need more attention why i don't know maybe it has something to do with our moms but we do , and being that he hasn't had a drink for a while maybe insecurities are rising and just needs to be assured that u still need him and love him
2006-06-08 07:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to plan some weekend getaways and leave some love notes somewhere.
2006-06-08 07:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by lambgroni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont have a husband
2006-06-08 07:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you two together?
2006-06-08 08:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋