What woudl you do if your wife or husband or bf/gf todl you they were gay?

Question

Or wanted to experiment with it.

Woudl you be pissed, embarassed, supportive or just like "whatever" ?

Answer 1

I think that I would be sad at first and feel somewhat personally responsible (even though I intellectually know that it can't possibly be my fault). But, I would let them do whatever they needed to do to be happy.

Answer 2

It depends. If it were a bf/gf, I would thank them for being honest before things got permanent. No embarrassment. I wouldn't be pissed unless they had been unfaithful to our relationship.

In a marriage, that would be different. I would be hurt that someone had made a commitment to a hetero relationship when they were not. It's an honesty thing.

The rest depends on the situation.

Answer 3

Pissed and embarassed!!! I would feel as though they "conned" me. Especially if we had been in a longterm relationship. If it were short term, I might consider being more supportive, but it would be very uncomfortable, especially if they had already experimented before or during the time we were together.

Answer 4

I know one thing I wouldn't do is overreact or freak out, since I have several gay friends both male and female and their sexual preference doesn't bother me. So I would be one of the supportive ones, wanting him to be happy and still maintain his resposibilities as a father. Whether that meant staying married or getting a divorce, whatever we felt was best.

As for he experimentation of it, I think the thought of two men going at it infront of them freaks them out and itn't really a turn on for most. However, if it's on the other hand meaning the wife is and she wanted to experiment most men I know (and don't know) would think that was hot as hell. I even think there are lots of women who actually are turned on by that even if they are straight.

Answer 5

my boyfriend "forgot" to tell me he was gay & that he was just trying out being straight with me - I found out about it when he solicited an undercover vice cop for sex & got arrested! Wow, that was a nightmare. Needless to say, we broke up but have since become close friends - the hurt & upset is in the past & I'm so glad he's a part of my life because he's a terrific person.

Answer 6

If they told me they were Gay I would be hurt and sad. (Because I was lied to) Then I would help them pack and move out. If they told me that they wanted to experiment then I would tell them Sorry cause I'm not into sharing. Then they'd have a decision to make. Me or experiments. Either way I would be hurt. I think that's only a natural reaction.

Answer 7

I would cry and be sad for the relationship I had just "lost". Then I would move on. No, I would not pissed, embarassed or supportive.

Answer 8

I guess that would explain the anal fixation....I'd probably ask them if it was because of me. I mean I don't think I'm THAT bad, that I'd turn 'em to the other camp...Whatever, I'd be supportive, but I couldn't go on being married that'd be a farce.

Answer 9

well, as someone who recently told his wife that he is bi, i can tell you, i am no longer in the home! of course, it feels like a huge weight off my shoulders, so, it was worth it. I know she feels anger, embarrassment, but, I have to give her credit, because she is also trying to be supportive.......She is an awesome person!

Answer 10

I wouldn't be "whatever", I would be a little mad because they didn't tell me before, but I would also be supportive, because then if things don't work out, they might come back