Am I wrong to be angry at my sister?

Question

My husband and I were having a BIG argument, and I have been going through postpartim depression, so I've been a little wacky. I was so upset that he went to my parents for advice. My sister is over there at the time. She didn't have her car so my husband gave her a ride home. My sister offers him to stay the night, or in fact stay the night anytime we are fighting. I think this is odd, because they barely know each other and she knows my husband does not like her cause she borrowed money from him and never payed it back. I thought this was in poor taste, and tacky, even though she claims she would have stayed with a friend if he had stayed at her house. Am I wrong? Also that same day I had asked her if I could stay with her, cause I didn't want to be alone. She said yeah, I guess, but had a put out look on her face, which showed that she didn't really want me too.

My husband did not stay there. He said he thought it was wierd too

Answer 1

i dont know what to tell you be glad you still talk to your sister cause i hate mine and in that type of offer i might have to slap the b*#ch

Answer 2

You shouldn't be angry at your sister because she hasn't done anything wrong to you. I do think from the situation you described that it is odd she would invite your hubby over. When you are feeling better try talking to her about this and ask her why she would invite him over while she looks as if she wouldn't want you to spend the night.
Sounds like your sister might have some issues - it doesn't sound right that she would want a married man in the house whenever he is fighting with you - sounds kinda shady. If I were I would get this worked out with your sister. In the meantime just work on communicating with you hubby, talk to him and be honest with him about how you're feeling. Post partum can be hard on you, but it's very hard on him too - especially since he doesn't know exactly how you are feeling all the time.

Answer 3

First of all... it's never wrong to feel one way or another, and you should never apologize for your feelings. You need to talk to your sister and your husband both seperately and let them know how this situation made you feel. They both should be sensitive to the fact that you are suffering from Post Pardom Depression, but you have to be ready if either on lash back out at you. It isn't an easy situation, but you will get through it. Your sister was probably just looking out for your best interest, this way you would have known you could trust the person that he was staying with. Would you rather he stayed elsewhere?

Answer 4

First of all, your feelings are not "wrong." You are entitled to feel angry, upset.... WHATEVER your feelings are, you always have a right to how you feel.
Secondly, I think your sister should have talked to you FIRST, before offering your husband somewhere to go for the night, just out of respect. I think you should let them both know that you're going to need a bit more patience, understanding and respect from them both for right now. And tell them you felt disrespected or ignored to not be included in the decision-making of your man spending the night over there. It's nice to be asked if YOU feel ok with their ideas out of respect. Remind them that what you're going through is temporary and you'd like them to understand that it is a respect issue, and it shouldn't be too much for them to consider your feelings before going ahead and doing that.

Answer 5

Yes, I would be angry with my sister for offering my husband her place for the night, or anytime we were fighting. Why would she want to put herself in the middle of your marriage? Sounds funky to me. Maybe you and your husband should seek an outside third-party instead of immediate family members for your troubles. Families are generally too biased and opinionated.

Answer 6

I think you have every right to mad at your sister. Shes obviously not trust worthy as she didn't even bother to pay the money back she owes your husband. I'm almost sure she has other intentions. She should of asked you to stay with her, not him!

Answer 7

I reallly do no longer understand your sister being indignant with you for serving her toddler a nutritous lunch, once you think him for her. There would desire to be another situation at play between you. possibly she feels which you have been being judgemental relating to the nutrition she had chosen and grew to become it right into a diverse situation of you relatively criticizing her parenting. attempt bringing up the subject in a delicate and reassuring way on a similar time as organising the boundries you choose related to feeding. in case you commence off the communication with,"i'd desire to verify which you have been disillusioned that i did no longer provide Johnny the lunch you despatched. The lunch grew to become right into a controversy right here because of the fact i wanted to be honest to the two teenagers and supply them a similar element so there wouldnt be any arguing. contained sooner or later once I watch Johnny enable's agree earlier to time regardless of in case you will deliver lunch for 2 or if i visit furnish lunch for the infants." do no longer enable this situation blow up right into a extra physically powerful situation -sisters/aunties choose one yet another for help!!!

Answer 8

I'm sorry but sometimes even your own family will screw around with you. At least I would not have allowed that.....HELL NO....
I can't trust nobody these days.......Let him and her know it's just wrong.....He has his house and no matter how mad you are at each other he needs to go home. He can sleep in another room, but rules are he has a home and he belongs there.....

Answer 9

She is acting pretty strange. I would tell her your husband will not stay there and make that clear to him too. Do you think she has a crush on him or is she doing it to make you angry?

Answer 10

Well I think you should mad at her cause what happens if one day he does go over to her house and he gets in bed with her then you may find out and then what will happen inbetween you and your husband? it won't be good. So just becareful when you get angry at him cause one day he might leave and you won't know where he might gi then. good luck.

Answer 11

Neither you or your husband should get either of your sets of reletives invoved in your private matters, this includes arguements. Learn to settle your differences between you. It's no one elses business but yours and his...it's certainly not your sisters' business.