If your husband cheated on you emotionally with your best friend of 15 years would forgive either of them?

Question

THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON SINCE 2004, OR BEFORE, AND I FOUND OUT WHEN I WAS DEPLOYED AND THEY BOTH DENIED EVERYTHING. WE GOT MARRIED IN 2002.

Answer 1

Emotionally? Is that what they're telling you? It really doesn't matter either way. Whatever level this is taking place on you it is still cheating and still unforgivable.

It would be very hard to since it's been happening for so long. This is obviously not a casual affair and it probably won't end soon. Since you were only married in 2002 I would have to opine that your husband and your best friend (sic) are not very nice people at all, and probably shouldn't be forgiven. Actually, the words I would use to describe them are a lot stronger.

If I were you I would divorce him and never look back. The 'best friend' isn't any kind of friend, and the husband isn't a husband either.

Answer 2

Cheating emotionally ... that is the question ... I guess. Obviously, they had a connection of some kind. But if they never put it into "action" or cheating "physically," I think that shows restraint. And just maybe the reason they both denied it and you ended up getting married was because they both love you more than each other and neither took the "dreaded" step of action. Because "action" has always spoken louder than "words" hasn't it? By emotional, I'm assuming it was just talk about their feelings that were never put into action. Where are they now? Is your friend in a relationship? If they never carried out their "emotional cheating," then I would have to say you have some loyal friends/lovers ... even if they denied it to keep from hurting you. Physical cheating, mind you, is not showing restraint, and I couldn't jive with that. Good luck.

Answer 3

Cheating on you emotionally? They both deny it, so how do you know? And what does cheating on you emotionally mean to you?

Is it cheating on you emotionally if he just likes to talk to your friend? It might be inappropriate if he tells her that he loves her, but if he has been doing this for four years and nothing physical has come of it, it doesn't sound serious. Certainly not to the point of not forgiving them.

Are you so insecure that you must have 100% of the attention of your husband? He can't look at another woman or talk to another person? He can have no friends but you? I'd say, give him a little space.

They both deny everything, which sounds like you could be making something out of nothing. Nevertheless, your husband should cleave unto you and forsake all others. If that is the problem he needs to cut the ties with your best friend. And of course you should forgive them both.

Answer 4

i agree doc.
Cheating on you emotionally? They both deny it, so how do you know? And what does cheating on you emotionally mean to you?

Is it cheating on you emotionally if he just likes to talk to your friend? It might be inappropriate if he tells her that he loves her, but if he has been doing this for four years and nothing physical has come of it, it doesn't sound serious. Certainly not to the point of not forgiving them.

Are you so insecure that you must have 100% of the attention of your husband? He can't look at another woman or talk to another person? He can have no friends but you? I'd say, give him a little space.

They both deny everything, which sounds like you could be making something out of nothing. Nevertheless, your husband should cleave unto you and forsake all others. If that is the problem he needs to cut the ties with your best friend. And of course you should forgive them both

Answer 5

Well, with not knowing the details, I really am not sure. Eventually you need to forgive them to get on with your life. Its not healthy to hold onto that kind of hurt or anger. As far as your relationship with the two that hurt you, that is tough. First, your best friend isn't really that is she? A best friend would never do that to you. Mine wouldn't. Your husband, boy, your newlyweds and he's done something emotional like this? I would maybe seek counselling if you think you can work it out with him. Only you know how you feel and if you want your marriage to work. I would lose the "friend" though. She's definately not "best friend" material. All I can say is its your decision. We can't tell you what is right for you. No one needs to judge your decision either. I hope I've helped you alittle. Good luck. You are in my prayers.

Answer 6

I don't know what you mean by emotionally cheating on you. If you mean that they have become close while you were gone then I can't say that I really blame them. You were probably the topic of most conversations and that is what has brought them together. If you have not concrete proof then I say stay with them and just keep your eyes open. If you suspect anything later on down the road then leave. You have just come back from an emotional trauma. You might just be very sensitive.

Answer 7

It would be very hard to since it's been happening for so long. This is obviously not a casual affair and it probably won't end soon. Since you were only married in 2002 I would have to opine that your husband and your best friend (sic) are not very nice people at all, and probably shouldn't be forgiven. Actually, the words I would use to describe them are a lot stronger.

Answer 8

if you're particular your husband cheats on you, and the age of consent is 16 the position you stay, then i ought to assert bypass for it. yet, how ought to your husband react if he exhibits out? even with the undeniable fact that if he cheats on you, he ought to no longer imagine the same about it popping out of your end, and ought to likely kill the both actual one of you. Or, tell him you study about him dishonest, and also you need as a lot as now a youthful guy. If he won't be able to manage that then destroy up and take 0.5 his stuff. Why are you nevertheless consisting of your piece of crap husband? You typed the question and it seems to me like you're knowledgeable. If he did rape a 13 twelve months previous, you want to record it to the police, get a criminal professional and divorce him. you nevertheless comprehend the version between proper and incorrect, and it really is inaccurate so that you'll be able to stay with him. If i became you i ought to %. up each and every thing you want, drain the monetary business enterprise account, and get an position of abode and detect a job. there are a variety of of jobs the position you don't desire anymore education than to be able to study or write, and infrequently that is not any longer even mandatory. Get the hell faraway from him, and in the adventure that your little ones are so knotted up because of him, enable them stay with him. once you've always been a good mom, they're going to nevertheless be on your existence.

Answer 9

I read about married military personal. It seems that every case I have heard about, the spouses have cheated. Chances are they have slept together. How long were you deployed? Why did you marry this person in the first place? I would find a new best friend. Let them have eachother. That will teach them. Kick him out you can afford it.

Answer 10

Don't know what you mean, sister, by emotional cheating. Sounds like a bit of green eyed jealousy. Your husband doesn't stop having friends of the opposite sex just because he is married. Neither do you. There are lines you don't cross and you will find yourself infatuated with some guy someday ... you'll have to tell yourself that you can't go anywhere with that infatuation because of your marriage vows. Just think this through. To err is human but to forgive is divine. Redemption is the key to finding happiness.