this guy i'm dating with never revealed me anything about his social and material condition. moreover, he made me believe that he's a poor guy... i liked him and appreciated him alot, in spite of his 'condition'.
now that he told me he has a lot of money and would like us to get engaged i feel like he lied to me...and don't seem to like him so much.
still i don't know why is this happening to me...
2006-06-08 06:58:10 · 30 answers · asked by AnneMarie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i reckon he was trying to make sure that you liked for him!! Don't be too hard on him, get to know him and it should not make a difference that he's rich!! take time to know him better and dont be scared to ask questions about his life!!!
look at it as an experience and have fun!!!
2006-06-17 09:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he kept the fact that he has a lot of money from you because he wanted to make sure you liked him for being him and not his money. Maybe he's been burnt by someone in his past and he is now being cautious. I would ask him out direct as any doubts you have in his honesty will nag at you and undermine your relationship. Explain to him how you feel as well because you feel he has not been honest with you. (and I imagine you're thinking what else isn't he telling me)
Take your time on getting engaged. There is no point in committing to someone you are not 100% certain you want to be with.
2006-06-08 15:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kazcatlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he said that because past relationships they were just there for the money... like gold diggers. I still would be upset about being lied to. That is no way to start off a marrage. Maybe you should get engaged but no rush into saying I do until you know you can trust him.
2006-06-08 14:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by april0276 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know anything about his social or material condition then I would venture to say that you don't kno him well enough to get engaged. Why he would lie to you about this I am not sure but honesty is so important to keeping a marriage lasting, you might need to consider that.
2006-06-08 14:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by beauman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly to tell you the truth.. The TRUTH.. he did it because he didn't know who loved him for his money or him so he tried a new approach.. my boyfriend and I met at his crummy little job in the mall... and I fell in love with him the first time we met.. he asked me out on a date and he picked me up in an S2000.. a really nice and fast sports car.. he said he knew I wasn't after what he had... But him and inside and that's the most important thing!! Now the extra mula $ is a bonus! lol
2006-06-08 14:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probable wanted to see whether or not u like him for who he is, rather than just going for the money...maybe he had a 'user' girlfriend in the past before..money is just money..he doesnt seem like he uses it to get what he wants, so just go with the flow..maybe ask him why he did it and then see his reply..is it what u think is honest? i would probably stay a bit longer...but begin to evaluate whats going on..maybe think about the fact that he might be lying about something else as well..im really sorry though i dont mean get too paranoid..at a safe level always!
2006-06-08 14:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by crazyorangefish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know for sure why he didn't tell you about his social state maybe because he is rich he doesn't want anyone to love him for his money but for him and when you were together you liked him right so there is no need over react and dump him are anything like that. You enjoyed his company when you didn't know anything about him so why change anything now.Look at it this way if you were rich would you want someone to like you for your money or would you want to know that someone like you for you. It's a plus that he is rich and he wants to marry you and you'll be rich too.
2006-06-08 16:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how his lying to you has made you feel - and that you would like an explaination as to why he did what he did
If you don't feel the xplaination you get is the truth - express that to him - don't get engaged to this guy if you aren't 100% sure that it is what you want
2006-06-19 09:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by colletteukuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wanted and needed to know you wanted him for him and not any materialistic reasons,whih i think is fine.
lying is not something i condone but from his point of view he wanted to know that mony did not matter to you.
however i think the most interesting,important thing is how you say your feelings have changed.
could it be you like to go after what appeared to be someone worse off than yourself and maybe found a little bit of a superior feeling in this,now he as told you the truth you are not as interested beecuse he is no longer someone who you feel needs your help
mike
2006-06-19 02:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by listener06y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously didn't trust that you were not a "Gold-digger" before.
Explain that he hurt you be pretending to be something he isn't.
Have a few days apart to examine your true feelings then get on with your life - whichever way you choose to go.
Good Luck.
2006-06-17 09:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋