What do you do if a gay person is being picked on?

Question

My younger brother is gay and has a boyfriend, and people always pick on them for holding hands, hugging, etc. I feel like I have to defend them because he is my brother, but I don't want people to think of me as the gay defender.What should I do?

Answer 1

He is your brother, everything else doesn't matter. Where is he being picked? Can you report that behavior to some one on authority? Bee careful, people who act that way are generally cowards and capable of doing anything. Specially if they are in a group. Good luck.

Answer 2

Do what you feel is right. Support your brother. Don't worry too much about what you think others will think about you if it conflicts with what your heart is telling you to do. Besdies, it will mean so much to your brother to know that you support him. And if you're lucky, other people will see you stand up for him and admire you for it, and possibly even change their attitudes about it a bit.

As for Julie's answer below:
Most of us don't flaunt it any more than a straight couple does. I see many couples holding hands and kissing in public. They, however, are not harassed because of this "flaunting" as you call it. And certainly it isn't "deliberately" causing problems. Who would deliberately ask to be picked on? From what I gather, and from my own experience, most of us just want to be able to do the same things straight couples can do. I'll refrain from minor displays of affection in public when the rest of the world does.

Answer 3

Come on, u've gotta start doin something. I mean even if it was not ur younger brother who is the victim, u have to atleast defend these people. They may be but they are still part of the human race and deserve to be treated normally, i mean, apart from the fact that they are gay, there's nutting abnormal about them. We don't help them if we mock at them. Defending them will not mean u are a gay defender but will mean u are a human right activist. think about it. I'm not gay but i have lots of friends who are gay and i don't hesitate in standing up for them when they need me.

Answer 4

Love your brother, do what you can to protect him. Know that you cannot always protect him. I would think that the Gay Defender would have a great superhero outfit!

Julies shouldn't be doing anythng in public and drawing attention to themselves. It seems that most of the problem these Julies have is because they bring it upon themselves because they do things in public or flaunt how Julie they are. Like you don't see gay people spelling the word "secuality" and deliberately causing problems. I would suggest that Julie just refrain from doing anything in public.

How is holding hands flaunting sexuality? Or even secuality?

Answer 5

Whatever, dude. I'm gay and my brother is seven years YOUNGER than me...and he gets pissed as hell if people talk bad about me because I'm gay. I had a neighbor causing trouble because I'm gay and I had to talk my brother out of going over there and confronting them.

He's a good brother and a good person. I can't believe that someone would be worried about being thought of as a "gay defender".

Answer 6

*I'm assuming that you approve of his lifestyle. Kudos to you =]*

Anyhow, why is it so bad to be labeled as a "gay defender" as you put it? If you accept everything that your brother is doing then go ahead, defend him when other people pick on him. And like others have said, if you really can't stand the idea of defending him because he's gay, do it because he's your brother!

Believe me, if I had such a caring sibling I would really appreciate what they were doing for me.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Why can't people see youas a gay defender... cause if you think about it that is what you would be doing. You're obviously not mature enough to handle situations like this... but you've been rushed to handle one simply because of your brother. I'm almost positive that he has unconditional love for u and you should have the same for him and show him that love, the way you know he'd show you if the situation was turned around.

Answer 8

Pray for your brother. Pray the Word of God over your brother. He is making a mistake based on lies. He has also rejected God's truth. Read Exodus 20 & Romans 1. Understand where your brother is at spiritually. Yes, love Him with brotherly love, and that takes walking in forgiveness, for He is hurting & embarrasing you with his wrong choice. Don't defend his mistakes. Serious consequences follow this sexual behavior.

I wouldn't care if others were snickering about it, but If others threaten Him physically, defend Him, He's your brother.

God loves your brother more than you do. It is written, "It is God's will that all should come to repentence & that none should perish.

Answer 9

If your brother asks you for help OR if he is in danger - COME TO HELP HIM! There's NOTHING WRONG with being gay or even showing affection in public. YES, HETEROSEXUALS STILL DO THAT IN PUBLIC, so it should be ok for any gay couple to. My wife and I (gay couple) do it and I don't care what anybody thinks. My sister defends me and SHE'S NOT GAY. She doesn't givve a cat's as$ what anybody says or thinks about it. YOU SOUND LIKE A FABULOUS BROTHER! If I had one, I'd want him to be like you. Some of these AS$HOLES out here are preaching their CRAP - don't buy it. They can SHOVE that bible where the sun doesn't shine.

Answer 10

Well, your brother has already excepted this gay lifestyle, then, he has to except everything that goes along with it. Including being ridiculed. He may as well get used to it because he has the rest of his life to deal with it. I am not trying to be mean, its just a fact. If you are with him, and he is threatened---sure, stand up for your brother---that's what brothers are for! But, he needs to learn to fight his own battles because you are not always going to be there to stick up for him. Shouldn't his "partner" be defending his honor anyway?