I am 10 wks pregnant with baby #3-although this will be my husband's first child. since we found out we're pregnant a month ago, he has lost interest and enjoyment in sex- saying that it "feels different" than before, which im sure that it does, and he is afraid of hurting the baby. these are all things ive read in the pregnancy books, but i don't know how to help him through this. it's really bothering me; as this is the time when i want to make love to him the most. any advice on how to get him through this?
2006-06-08 05:37:57 · 12 answers · asked by baidensmommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Seduce him... When you are both watching tv, make sure that you are waiting for being all sexy and provocative., but do not let him know, what you are after as that will stress him. Get on his stomach grab the thing and start giving him you know what... Get him excited and see if he gets in the mood and hopefully give you some, and while he is doing you, make sure you say to him, there you go, that's right, there is nothing wrong.... Give him assurance.
2006-06-08 07:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To offer a female prospective:
I understand what you're going through, it's normal. Just try to be confident, supportive, and patient with him. He has never done this before, and you have, and the fact that he doesn't want to hurt the baby is a good thing. Educate him, and learn together with the books you've read, but don't make him feel bad about not having sex with you. Just be sure to give him everything he needs emotionally and physically, and buy yourself a dildo. Seriously. You don't need to make love to be in love, the fact that you don't have to just shows how strong of a couple that you are.
2006-06-08 05:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by ashley717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way, although he didn't actually start having a problem with it until I started showing. He didn't say it felt different...he just said it freaked him out to have sex with the baby "right there" (even though he knew he couldn't hurt the baby). Just be patient with him. There are other things you can do with your husband to be intimate (I won't go into detail here...just use your imagination, :)) to carry you through until after you have the baby, or until he comes around, if he does.
2006-06-08 06:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have three children. Sex was never a problem. As she became larger we had to get somewhat creative with positions but neither one of us found it uncomfortable. Your husband needs to realize that having normal sex during a normal pregnancy should not harm you or the baby in any way. Maybe he needs to go to the doctors with you and be reassured that everything is normal and he doesn't have to worry. Anxiety really does effect a mans performance.
2006-06-08 05:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by david h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal behavior... most of the time their outlook on you changes. All of the sudden you go from that sexual being to some holy being that they can not have sex with anymore... don't worry about it... try to educate him as you go along... read the info together or share what you've read with him. He'll get used to the idea. Give him time and be patient... this is all new for him too!
2006-06-08 05:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by shay2n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you won't hurt the baby right?
I think you'd have to figure out whether the problem with him is physical or mental.
Most men find their wives more attractive when they are pregnant.
Maybe he's nervous about being a father?
Good luck, I'm sure he'll come around.
2006-06-08 05:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by aprilsastar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with my last 2 my husband was scared to have *** because he thought that he would hurt the baby. Take him with you to the next dr. appointment and ask the dr if there are any risk to having intmacy with your husband during the pregnancy
2006-06-08 05:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer.frye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should read to him the different doctor opinions on sex while pregnant. It's safe, and it's normal that pregnant women want it more often. This should convince him. good luck
2006-06-08 05:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Cristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him it's not going to hurt the baby. Bring him to the doctors when you go for a prenatal visit and have the doctor tell him if he doesn't beleive it.
2006-06-08 05:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get over it
ask him if he is having an affare with someone there is no reason he should not wanna be with you your married
2006-06-08 05:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋