What did you base your decision to wait or not wait on?
2006-06-08 04:48:34 · 11 answers · asked by Lisa S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am 21 and waiting until marriage... it just seems like I am the only one... like sex is no big deal anymore...
2006-06-08 04:54:09 · update #1
I did.
When I was in high school I was seated in the right front corner of the room (since my last name started with "C" [Curious]) and when the teacher was out of the class one day I yelled across the room to a friend of mine and asked for a stick of gum. Being a wiseguy, he took out a stick of Juicy Fruit gum and removed the paper and foil wrapper. He then handed it to some guy sitting next to him and asked him to pass it over to me. That guy handled it and then handed it to another person who licked one end of the stick, laughed and handed to the next person who also handled it, and another person handled it, and finally it made it to me. It was all wet on one end, dirty, covered with germs, bent out of shape, and who knows what kind of bacteria was all over it.
I chose to NOT eat it. I wanted one that hadn't been handled by everyone in the room.
THAT is why I preserved my most valuable gift (my virtue) and shared it only with my sweetheart. I thought that much of her. Still today (after 26 years) she knows that my valuable virtue was reserved for only her. I've never shared it with any other person, only her. How do you think that makes her feel? If something is of value, you don't just give it away to anyone. That very well may be why we've been married for 26 years, never separated, never divorced, and we have total 100% trust between us. I've also raised five sons who have longed to copy their parents example of fidelty, morality, and marital success. Couples who enter marriage with a laundry list of sexual partners NEVER have the closeness and level of trust that moral couples enjoy. Couples with multiple sexual partners get divorced at a rate MUCH higher than moral couples do. When I share the sexual experience with my wife I can look into her eyes and I only see my own reflection, not a yearbook montage of all her previous partners--because there were none. And the same it true with her when she looks into my eyes she only sees HER own reflection.
I do NOT believe in a double standard for men and women. Moral women are 100% virtuous when they are married.
Immoral women are not.
Moral men are 100% virtuous when THEY are married. I
mmoral men are not.
It is as simple as that.
2006-06-08 05:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Curious 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am waiting til marriage to have sex. At first, it was a religious deal. I believed it to be wrong. So I didn't have sex. Now, it's more of a consequence issue. I don't want to get pregnant, and I don't want to be in a relationship based on sex. My bf has been very respectful of my decision. There are many people who decide to wait. Most people just don't like to admit it. It's "cooler" to say you have had sex than not. I am personally glad that I have waited.
2006-06-08 04:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in Mr. Curious' answer. I didn't wait and wish that I did. My husband and I had issues with trust at the beginning of our marriage. Luckily we worked them out and have a great marriage now. I talk to my children about it often. I want them to know the importance of waiting for the right person. (Saving them self for the one special one that they will spend the rest of their life with).
2006-06-08 06:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by yourmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am waiting. Sex before marriage is jusst causing trouble. Once u sleep with sum1 u giv them a piece of urself & u cant get it back. Rather wait tilur married so that u giv ursef away only 1 person.
2006-06-08 05:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by skye101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some pple mite depending on there religous beliefes i said that that was what i was gon try 2 do but i'm not quite sure that it's gonna happen that way u know...but it is a good idea 2 wait
2006-06-08 04:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by j_s_got_da_flava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didin't think so, but theres this new dude at work who just got a divorce and says his ex was his first and he wont get any until he marries again. Sucks for him
2006-06-08 04:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 6 siblings. We're Christians. I don't think any of us waited.
2017-02-06 17:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am trying to wait i dont know if im going to slip or something like that ... but right know im waiting .. why do you want to know???
2006-06-08 05:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by mixed-baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do..i'm strongly believe in my religious that says only have sex after marriage..this is bcos to avoid any confusing in future
2006-06-08 04:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by munchen2186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i'm still waiting and hopefully i will be married by the time i'm 22.
2006-06-08 05:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by miss-info 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋