how can I not hate my life? I don't have a boyfriend anymore. I don't have my own house. I don't have a job. I go to a school that I hate, and I'm sick of all this happening. I don't have friends (not one)! I lost them all. And I'm also sick of putting up with my parent's and living with them!
2006-06-08 04:44:59 · 31 answers · asked by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 in Home & Garden ➔ Do It Yourself (DIY)
And to krazyInLuv and Kay Kay I already do go to see a therapist. thanks for nothing!
2006-06-08 05:58:09 · update #1
But you tried anyway so I guess that's all that matters.
2006-06-08 05:58:50 · update #2
needs to be in the mental Health section
2006-06-08 04:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by ganerd 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Try a part time job.
You should appreciate the time out of the house so it's not so much like work. You might meet new friends there and save up some coin.
You really need a change of attitude and outlook.
Pisspoor attitude will cause you to lose friends, even boyfriend.
It also makes living at home miserable. Kind of like you're looking for reasons why everything sucks, and we can always find them.
If you stop to appreciate things you do have ( like living at home, at least you have one !) and getting educated to someday have a better life, you can smile a little more and people will warm up to you faster than if you are moping around sad and frowning.
There's always school counselors who are trained to assist you in these matters.
Good luck, and have some fun!
2006-06-08 04:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by astroservus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're going through a hard time. And since I've been through those exact same things (some at different times, some at the same time) I pretty much can tell you that there is no easy answer.
But in this case, based on what you asked, it sounds as if you're just heart broken. That takes time to heal so there won't be an easy answer to that. Maybe that person wasn't really for you. Maybe that person will return to your life one day. None of that is important. You have to take things slow and move on. If it's a situation where your boyfriend moved on, let him be.
And just because you don't have a house, it's no big deal. Enjoy the lack of bills that you have to deal with now. Trust me, when you get a house, you're going to miss that extra income.
Life is up and downs. Things aren't probably bad as you may believe right now. Learn from what you are going through right now so that you can use this as your testimony in life.
2006-06-08 04:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is you can't, because we hate ourselves we feel that others should too and we drive them away, and then we hurt even more.
I lost all my friends too but it was my own fault, a few months ago I wrote 3 of them long letters and told them how I felt; guess what? They understood and we are now closer than ever. Could you do that? Not right now as I think you're too upset, but maybe work your way up to it. If any of them were true friends they'll understand, but if they don't s*d 'em - they were never worth knowing in the first place.
Like you I've had to move back in with my Mom & Dad, but that's because I couldn't cope without them. So you see you do have friends.
Take care
Vicky x
2006-06-09 08:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you sound like a person I know very well, me actually. Anyway, the fact that you are even able to type this message is a blessing in it's self. Who knows, the Lord may be preparing you for greatness. Look at it this way, trouble won't last long, and when you are delivered from this funk you will have a powerful testimony to help someone else. You're not alone, you're not the only one who has this issue in the world, I'm sure that there are millions of others who have worse situations than you do. You're still here continue to live take a stand, not your life!
I wish you love peace and happiness!
2006-06-08 04:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by tiniri11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes, it is really not as bad as you think it is. It may seem right now like everything is horrable and nothing is going right, but you know what you can change that. Instead of being down about yourself and your life take charge of it. If you don't like living with your parents then find a job so you can move out. If you don't have any friends once again get a job and make friends there. If you want a boyfriend then stop looking for one and they will come to you. Just take charge of your life and make it how you want it to be.
2006-06-08 07:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jennie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one way to start not hating your life is by changing your attitude. Why did you lose all your friends? I find it hard to believe that you don't have ONE SINGLE friend.
how old are you? if you are living with your parents because you are a teenager, then enjoy it while you can. Believe it or not, our parents (most of them) love us and care for us. You probably don't like them because you have to follow their rules, am I correct? My household is the same way. My kids must follow MY rules as long as they live under MY roof...I don't care how old they are. If your parents have rules, your best bet is to follow them. You mentioned you don't work, right? So that means that your parents are providing 100% of your support. (Home, food, electric, water, etc.)
If you are over the age of 18, and you don't have a job, then get one. You don't need a boyfriend. Your own house will come in due time. I am 31 years old, and I just bought my own house in May of last year.
My mother walked out on me when I was 3. My dad worked 3 different shifts every week to support myself and my 4 year old brother. (My dad was only 20). I got a job when I was 14, so I could help my dad, and I wouldn't have to watch him struggle to put food in our mouths. I stayed in school, graduated, continued to work 3rd shift (after graduation), and went to college during the day. I could have been sleeping from working all night, but my attitude was different than that, and I wanted to make something of myself. Friends were no longer important, my attitude and making something of my life became important. Oh, and by the way...there was no boyfriend in the way of all this. They are nothing more than an interruption to a young girl that needs to make a life. Boys will come later. You have plenty of time for that. Just thank your lucky stars you aren't pregnant by this boyfriend that you don't have anymore.
I am trying to tell you that things could be mouch worse. Hang in there where school is concerned. We are nothing without an education. Respect your parents and learn to make it work with them. Take care of you. Love yourself, love your parents.
2006-06-08 04:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by tab42104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well, I go through most of that and then some. i've got a brother in the army in Iraq, A friend was murdered a year ago, I'm 21 and still living at home and Haven't found a decent job in 2 years. Oh, and like you, I have no friends where I live. But guess what?
I DON'T GIVE A SH!T!!!
Are you happy now?
2006-06-08 04:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by thebewast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that you hate your life. God didn't make us all unique individuals, with minds and souls, for us to go hating what he gave us.
So... with that said, I'd like to share something I was told long ago.
To have a friend, you need to be a friend.
Start talking to others with a smile on your face... soon you will see that smile returned and you will be happier! Once you are happier, and not moaning & groaning, then others will respond to you in a cheerful way!
Give of yourself... volunteer... find someone who is worse off than you and do something for them! No quid pro quo... just do it because it's there to be done.
Pay it forward... you will be rewarded.
Be glad that you have parents you can live with! There are lots of kids who have lost their parents in one way or another... try appreciating them... give them a hug-- for no reason! They'll be surprised and love you extra for it!
Be glad you have a school to go to... and that you have a chance to get an education. There are lots of people who will never have that opportunity... and many others who have had to quit school to help support their family.
Practice SMILING into a mirro! You might think it is ridiculous, but I promise you'll feel better.
Good luck! I'll be thinking good thoughts for you!
2006-06-14 14:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just listed all of the negatives in your life, but I'm sure there are some positives too! You're alive and you're healthy!--start there.
You have to focus on the positives and learn to deal with, learn from, and overcome the negatives. If you start having a more optimistic outlook things will be a lot easier to deal with.
If things are really unbearable, you may be depressed. Don't take it lightly! I got counseling and it was the best thing I've ever done for myself. Whether you need medication, counseling or both it's much better to deal with it head on and now, rather than get worse...
I wish you the best of luck, health, and happiness. :-D
2006-06-08 04:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by lifelover581 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at what you've got going for you:
You're alive (that's a plus)
You don't have to deal with an idiot boyfriend.
You don't have to deal with a mortgage, repairs or property taxes.
School is finite, temporary, and lasts a far shorter time than your life will.
You have the availability to make time for new friends.
You will not be living with your parents forever.
Basically, your life is a blank slate right now, to be written upon as you please. You have grand opportunities right now, you're not tied down, you have full freedom.
Personally, I'd work to save up enough money and move somewhere, anywhere, new for one year just to experience it. If you fall on your face, you can move back home. But you need to find yourself.
Best wishes
2006-06-08 04:51:59 · answer #11 · answered by Veritatum17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋