They've been going out for quite a long time now and coz we all go to the same school together she spends all her time with him and seems to ignore me now. We're not best friends - sometimes we get on eachother's nerves really badly but others it's great fun. i do have another friend in our class but she's really quiet and never talks much and there's not many other people to hang round with coz our school's so tiny. Sometimes I try to hang with her anyway but her bf is ALWAYS there and me and him don't get on very well. What do you think?
2006-06-08 04:43:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My dear don't forget old friends are the best. For now because the two of you have different views about the issue, you'll have a few misunderstanding here and there. This doesn't mean you must end your friendship. Leave her alone but guide her by expressing your views where appropriate. Try not to get on eachothers nerves for the 'fun' of others. Begin to make time with your other friend in your class. From the beginning you'll not like her company cos she's quiet and doesn't talk much but you'll now get to know each other better and probably grow to like her more. I hope with time you'll also grow to like her boyfriend. All the best.
2006-06-08 05:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Pryncex 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I had the same problem. Once my friend had a boyfriend she wouldn't hang out with me and it hurt real bad. Honestly, she isn't a very good friend if she does this. You need to move on and find some friends that WON'T do that. I know it is hard but you can do it. I am currently doing it again with the same friend....we didn't talk for 2 years, then she got married and having baby in a few weeks and still doesn't talk to me. It isn't worth my time to be upset about this all the time! I need to move on...just like you do hun!
2006-06-08 11:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friend tell her how u feel and if theres anything that worries u like loosing her as a friend etc. she may not know how u feel and if u want her as a friend that much u wud try so hard to keep it that way. the effort in ur friendship needs to be 50 50 though. if she doesnt listen or understand then there are always friends that u can make who will appreciate u more, and in the end she will eventually realise whats shes lost.
2006-06-08 13:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends all made me choose between them and my boyfriend when we were at school. I tried to compromise and apologised if they felt likeI was ignoring them and said that I would make more time for them but they said it was too late and made me choose. I chose him. We have been together for 5 years now and are getting married next year.
Don' make her choose cos she will only resent you for it. Sit down and talk to her before things get out of hand. Just explain that you feel like your loosing her and that you want to spend more time with her.
She will appreciate your honety in the long run.
2006-06-08 11:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Katty83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a girls night out and take her away from him. Tell him to back off alittle. Tell them that you want to spend some quality time with you friend and that you never do. But you should go for the Girls Night Out thing. It would work.
2006-06-08 11:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will regret it when she is older that she didnt have a childhood and wasted her time with boys that are only gonna hurt her and waste her time. You are the lucky one, embrace it! Hang out with someone new, do stuff at lunchtime and youl meet people. School choir, gym, sports etc
2006-06-08 11:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live strong my dear.Do not depend too much on a person and if they have another one(like in your case)or just stop hanging out with you,you will be upset,sad,etc.Live your own life.Concentrate on your own things like how many people you help this week,how your mother react when one day you said yo her 'thank you mum,I love you'....Let your friend do what she wants.time will see.
2006-06-08 12:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by I love Lenny000000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it´s normal to want to spend time with other friends, it doesn´t mean she doesn´t like you, a true friend is the sort you can miss if you don´t see them all the time but they´re still friends.
I have friends I don´t see for a whole year sometimes, but they´re still my close friends.
Friendship will endure, be happy for your friend,that´s what we do.
2006-06-08 11:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Peter R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation now luv an im 22 n my m8 is 26.... she said she would never sack a m8 off to spend time wit her fella but thats exactly what she is doing!! i tried to talk to her about it but she just kickedoff sayin i was jelous so i just stopped replyin to her texts and 2 weeks later she has appologised........
moral of story..... try and speak to her and if nothing happens make new friends, you got ya whole life ahead of you
2006-06-09 18:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by Emma B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her not to run to u if she gets hurt by her BF.
tell u r find another friend since she's not ready to be ur friend and spends all her time with her BF, its not fair though, atleast she should make time for u as well.
2006-06-08 13:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋