2006-06-08 04:30:14 · 13 answers · asked by intense35 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's not a matter of "CAN" it's a matter of "WILL". How long would I? Not very long. Plus, i would never be with an alcoholic. Not that I don't have empathy for them, I just wouldn't want that in my life. I'm too strong for that type of personality and I would eat them alive with my personality.
If you want better for yourself, You stop tolerating it immediately,
READ CAREFULLY: WHEN BAD BEHAVIOR IS TOLERATED, YOU BECOME AN ENABLE. IF YOU ARE WITH A BOYFRIEND WHO SLIPS, YOU HAVE BECOME AN ENABLER AND YOU'RE MESSAGE IS SAYING "GO AHEAD AND SLIP CAUSE I'LL COME BACK. I'LL PUT UP A HISS BUT I'LL COME BACK".
So decide when you want to stop and then stop. If he doesn't like the fact that you're not around MORE than he likes to slip and drink, he'll stop to keep you around.
2006-06-08 04:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love him and he doesn't slip up to much. he has a chance but you are not the only one he needs to help him stop but just because he is slipping up sometimes does not mean he is going to become a alcoholic again.
2006-06-08 11:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that YOU can not help him. He needs to go to AA.
YOU need to go to Alanon. You will meet peers there that have the same questions, AND the one's that have been there for a while, now have the answers.
I have a question you should ask yourself. Why are you holding yourself to staying with a person with this life-long disease, that will make YOU miserable?
How long will you tolerate this? For as long as you remain with him, because it will never end. He's an alcoholic! He will always be an alcoholic.
I wish you love
STW
2006-06-08 11:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him then you will get him some help. maybe an alchoholic recovery group or a therapist. if you have your eye on someone else then you should go for him. otherwise, stay with your man all the way through this. if he still does this within a few months and the number of drunken times doesnt go down, then you shouldnt go on with him because it might never end. but if he slows down after you break up with him but you should really get back together with him as long as his nondrunk side is also a nonabusive side.
2006-06-08 11:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by sms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be an enabler. That will only cause him to drink more. Let him know this behaviour is unacceptable and you will move on if it happens again. Alcoholism is never cured, it will be with him for the rest of his life. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life dealing with that?
2006-06-08 11:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by teena9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him then you need to help him because it sounds like he can't do it alone he needs some support. at the start you will hate him but as time goes on he will change and it will get better, but it will take awhile i promise.
2006-06-08 11:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by sweet heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you love him and are willing to spend with these hiccups in the relationship. Everybody has their limit and it depends on your capacity to have faith that things will get better.
2006-06-08 11:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 Years but regret every single day of my life that I gave him. Don't waste your time.
2006-06-08 11:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not recovering if he slips....stop being the codependent and get out while you can
2006-06-08 11:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sex Toy Party Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody slips - if it is just a slip - if you love him stay with him - lean on me
2006-06-08 11:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋