Is it wrong?

Question

For a girl in a long term relationship to still look at other guys and still have the need to feel wanted from other guys?

Answer 1

it's not about right or wrong it's about WHY you feel you need that attention,

Just so you know, generally this means that a girl had a not so great relationship with her dad. Either her dad wasn't "there" emotionally, physically, mentally or whatever or they just wasn't a connection. this in turn causes girls to grow up and need that attention from men. Usually it's displayed with permiscuous behavior, lots of flirtation, or some sort of bad habit (s).

The problem lies with how this affects your husband. If you constantly have that need (constantly doesn't mean 24hrs a day, it means that it's present in your life) then part of you is checked out of your current relationship because something is not meeting your needs. This isn't your partner's responsibility though, it's yours to 1-get out of denial about the fact that you need this 2-get past the anger that may come out of the fact that you now realize you might have been neglected or whatever 3- take steps to fill those needs 4-re-kindle the relationship with your partner and maybe start asking for some specific things that you want and need from him in order for you to feel closer.

Yes, you may be reading this and thinking "what, this is way more than what my problem is" but actually, I don't think so. Most of us burry lots of things and are completely unaware of what's really going on inside. we're just experts and living with those things and disguising them to others.

Answer 2

My experience with this is that girls that feel this way have often not had a lot of dating experience. They haven't tasted all the flavors if you will. I don't think it's wrong, I just think it's a natural feeling to be curious with what else is out there (especially if you haven't experienced it). If I were this girl's boyfriend I'd let her go so she could get some dating experience before we go any further in our relationship. This would help her to see what else is "on the market," and ensure that if we got back to together she would be committed.

Answer 3

No, its the same as a guy looking at a girl, and we all know that happens all the time when you are in a relationship.. It's natural as long as you don't take it any further than you know you should

Answer 4

it isnt wrong at all,. as long as u dont act on them,.. the need to feel loved and wanted and the desire to want attention is natural,. when ppl are in long term relationships they become comfortable with eachother and dont realize that they still need to tell there other half how much they are loved and wanted,..

Answer 5

Not at all, your not blind,as far as a need to feel wanted, that could vary a bit depending on how much attention your getting at home, most people would like to think others find them atractive at a minimum, If you where going out of you way to make peoples jaw drop that might be a problem.

Answer 6

Your in the wrong long term relationship. Find someone who is interested in you as a whole.

Answer 7

yes and no......yes its fine to look at other guys but if u want to be wanted by them then thats a insecurity issue...if u thought u was fly enough then u wouldnt care if someone other than ur man wanted u....be careful with that sweetie it might get u in trouble... especially wanting attention from other men....(especially if ur man is around...) dont try to make him jealous or make him think that u are the best thing in the world cuz if he did it to u then ull be on yahoo. answers asking the exact opposite of this question...take care be safe and watch what u do...

Answer 8

not wrong, ethically speaking...but it does speak about her lack of self esteem and the psychological problem in having her personal validation come from an external source.

one would tend to wonder about the strength and health of her relationship with her father.

would she mind if her partner felt the same need from other women?

does this validation lead her to feel the need for physical intimacy from the other men? if so, that's not very fair to her partner.

either way, it is not healthy, but if it is unacted on it is not immoral.

Answer 9

its not wrong for her to look at other guys after all she is human however if I were you I would take a look at myself and see what she isn't getting from you that she feels the need to be wanted by other guys. if she was getting all she needed from you then she wouldn't have that need. i know its easier to blame her rather than think it could be a direct result of something she isn't getting from you. think about it.

Answer 10

no it's not wrong. Everyone needs to feel wanted and feel that they are respected. i do the same thing because i feel that i'll never be good enough or i feel like i'm getting disrespected left and right.do whatever it is to make yourself happy but do not cheat on the onew you love because karma is a ***** and it will get you back