I'm not saying I'm perfect, but most women who I have come across in my life have been proud, selfish, bad mannered, traitors, the list goes on. I'm not any of these things, or I try not to be anyway, why is every woman/girl I know like that? Does this mean I have just made bad decisions with who my friends are?
2006-06-08 04:03:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I feel so bad for young women who feel the way you do. I am 52 I have had the same group of women friends since I was in my early 20's. Of course I have met more women but my core group of women has stayed the same. We do this because we accept each others faults and differences. We hold each other accountable for our actions and support each other Through everything and anything. We have all been married and raised children and lost husbands and lost children (me) I have NO IDEA how I would have made it through without my girlfriends.
Please get some positive women in your life. Remember you have to be a friend in order to make a friend. Have no doubt when we fight oh we throw down big time, but if you hurt one of us we put that mess on the side till we deal with the outside threat, then it's on!
2006-06-08 08:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gloria 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, but I have noticed the same thing and have for years. Most of the people I would call friends are guys, I simply do not get along with women very well because I myself am nothing like that and can't stand to be around a woman like that longer than five minutes without wanting to scream.
2006-06-08 04:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow419 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to hate girls because of their treachery. However, I learned later that women are not mean to each other because they choose to be. It all has to do with insecurity and society. Once girls grow into their own identities, they become less insecure and less mean. In the ages between 13 and 21, most women have a feeling of insecurity. This is natural. They compensate for this by being mean and hateful towards their "competition" (other females). This is a phase, and it will pass. The best advice I can give you is to make friends with women, they will grow to be very loyal. In a society where men still try to put women down, it is important for women to develop bonds with each other.
2006-06-08 09:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly, the older you get, the less catty women should seem. But you can find friends that are not like this, rare as they may be in your age group, or you can seek out older, more mature women friends. Once women get out of the "chick" stage (where's it about exactly that - being a chick, trying to attract and compete for men, struttin your stuff, comparing yourself to others and possibly putting them down in the process, etc.) and move on to be "hens" (whose concerns become hopefully more about what kind of person they are/want to be, creating and maintaining supportive relationships, being mommies and all the nice traits that come with like nurturing, etc.) they become softer/gentler people. I have always appreciated older women friends and mature male friends/coworkers due to the cattiness of many 20something women.
Act like what you wish to attract and get to know some of us seasoned women. You may find a much better group of pals:)
2006-06-08 05:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by hiddenhotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem thats why I hang out with mostly guys I have one best friend and she is the ONLY girl I hang out with. And she still acts like a B*iotch alot of the time. I dunno why girls are like that you try to be there friends and they either talk behind your back or try to steal your man. I swear I think half of these females need to learn what Manners and Morals is. I am not saying i am a Saint but my God Ladies We should all have eachothers backs. :) By the way silly Rabbit I love your name :) and if you ever wanna talk just e-mail me :)
2006-06-08 04:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am much older and i know and have learned from experience that the female sex is a lot harder to get along with than the male sex. Just be who you are and in certain circumstances you just have to try to deal with them. Maybe try a new circle of friends and eventually you will meet someone who you become great friends with and it could be a friendship that last forever.
2006-06-08 04:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Nece 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watched a documentary last night on 10-year old girls and social bullying. It starts out at a young age, where they were talking about "she said something behind my back." It's how we're socialized for some reason.
But to be honest, it gets better as you get older. I'm 26, and wouldn't go back to 20 for a million bucks, because as people mature, you find much deeper friendships.
2006-06-08 06:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you have realize the attitudes and personalities of your female friends. Don't blame yourself, but it seems that society has been brewing and accepting these behaviours for sometime now.
My advice to you is to simply, just phase out of your friends lives and associate yourself with persons that have the same goals and values as you do.
Move on...that's it.
2006-06-08 04:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by enigma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a preteen/teen I felt like you do. But it changes as you grow older. I have 3 women friends whom I can count on a 100 %.
2006-06-08 23:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lotte T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you need to move. Certain areas in the US have high concetrations of people like this. Everywhere else, people are normal.
http://www.bestplaces.net
Look for places with low crime rates, high median income, high education, low percentage of minorities and mostly vote republican.
2006-06-08 04:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋