I had a relationship of 4 years with the girl that I still believe is the love of my life,I did something and she didn't forgive me yet,she wants me to forget everything,she tells me that her love had been covered by pain, that she needs to be alone ,she says that without me she will be better, the last time we were together she told me that she still love me, that she will never forget me ,but she needed time to release all the pain that her heart had.
she doesn't want me to call her,write her or send her e-mails,
it's been 1 month already and I still hope that she will forget me ,I love her very much and miss her a lot. friends of her tell me that sometimes she's sad and crying ,and that kills me inside for not being with her in those moments , I need help , I need to know what to do ,I need her back in my life , what can I do?
2006-06-08 03:58:55 · 11 answers · asked by someonelikeyou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Four year relationships don't just end over something stupid. Whatever you did that she will not forgive you for, and that has caused the breaking up of you two must be very serious.
Perhaps you need to put yourself in her shoes and understand that maybe what you did had it been done to you would cause you to do as she did.
Give her the space she has asked for, but in time try to contact her and ask for a time in which you two can talk things through. It may not end up successful for you, but at least maybe you two can have a friendship if nothing more.
It's really upsetting in situations like this, I know the feeling for sure, but you really can't do much but let time take its course. If she really cares deeply for you then she will find it in her heart to forgive you for whatever it is that you have done and return to you.
However, if you have done something terrible then maybe you need to think about whether or not your love for her was even genuine at all. Why does one hurt the one they love?
2006-06-08 04:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how she is feeling.. my babies daddy who is 18 and im 17 and i are not dating anymore... i broke up with him a week or two ago and he still wants me back ... i couldnt deal with our gighting and taking care of our baby ful time.. so i broke it off.... as a girl i can see where she is coming from... she was hurt and she wants to be a lone right now... i dont think its right for her to have lead you on by saying she just needs time and then saying she never wants to talk or anything.... so i agree that thats messed up... but however i think you should just try to give her her space and if she decides thats its meant to be for u two to be together then she will let you know... somethign small that you can do though to try to make her a lilttle happy is send her some flowers and a card telling her how you feel and how sorry you are and why u did whatever you did.. i know that would make me happy... i wish you the best of luck and i hope everything works out for you...
2006-06-08 11:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by mommy and me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a future with her, ask her to join you in counseling. If you guys attend church, the two of you should speak to your pastor about what steps are need. You've made the 1st step, and that is acknowledging you made a mistake. All you can do is lay your cards on the table face up to her. It will be up to her to accept. I hope this helped.
2006-06-08 11:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by phillymami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and see her... tell her how you feel. be honest! remember, you did something bad and this is the result.
don't expect to win her 100%... but winning her back (even just about 50%) would be great!
you were an asshole then... don't be one when you see her. you are "walking on thin ice", brother! don't reason out or defend whatever awful thing you did.
you deserved this break-up! now show her that you deserve to have her back.
i know you can do it! just be yourself and tell what's inside your heart.
2006-06-08 11:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the situation she's in would be hard to get rid off, what you must do us treat her more of a friend than a girlfriend, give her sometime and she might react to what you are trying to do. just be yourself with this and youl know what she is going trough.
2006-06-08 11:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by soshomeru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you were a fool and you really want her back inyo your life, just tell her you made some really bad mistakes and will she take you back. go get her before it's to late and she moved on.
2006-06-08 11:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by </33 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her and tell her you made a really bad mistake and that you love her and you want her back
2006-06-08 11:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by questioner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to giver her some space and maybe over time she will be able to forgive you.
2006-06-08 15:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be very bad to have hurt her that bad,you need to do more to have her back i doubt,the fact is are you really sorry?
2006-06-08 11:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by rubzebred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop thinking about her and move on... You'll learn. love hurts. Just move on, you can't do anything about it.
2006-06-08 11:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by johncharlesrealty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋