my b/f and i have been dating for three years and we're on a serious basis..we are planning to get married and both of our families are aware of this..but there's one problem...when he's good with me, he's really good..he's constantly coming to see me and always says how much he's glad to have me in his life. but as soon as we get into a fight he starts saying he never wants to see me again and he doesn't love me....what is this supposed to mean??
2006-06-08 03:53:50 · 13 answers · asked by seventy seven 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's just venting
2006-06-08 03:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a HUGE red flag to me. He might have control issues. You'll have to be the best judge of this and watch for any other signs of trouble. I can be furious with my b/f and say alot of things, but never for a second do I even think that I don't love him, nevermind say it to him. If I were you I'd be taking a lot more time and consideration before I'd marry someone that could be so mean when he's angry. Marriage doesn't make the problem go away....most times it makes it worse! Careful and good luck! :)
2006-06-08 11:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means he doesn't know how to have arguments with you without resorting to the "nuclear option" of saying he doesn't love you. That doesn't bode well for your marriage. I'd strongly urge pre-marital counseling so that you and he can learn to resolve your differences in ways that don't rip away at the very foundation of your relationship.
2006-06-08 10:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Doom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a mutual reaction. he might be overwhelmed by the fact that he cares for you and doesn't want to loose you, but deep down inside he cares for you, try to leave each other some space and let him refresh his mind so he can be the way he used to be when he's with you.
2006-06-08 10:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by soshomeru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats kind of abusive to threaten someone each time they dont "act right". Thats emotional abuse and it takes some maturity on his part to learn that he cant control you.
2006-06-08 10:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it probably means that when ya get married he's going to say the same thing and maybe u need to ask your mom she'll probably been in that kind of situation ask her what she thinks it means and maybe you should ask him why he says that maybe is just when his mad just ask your mom first.
2006-06-08 10:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by bestkany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I means that he is most likely just being a jerk and saying things that will hurt you. TYPICAL MALE TACTIC
2006-06-08 10:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people say hurtful things when they are angry but for him to say all those things to u, u better watch out. try and have a talk with him.
2006-06-08 11:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i wish i knew... me n my bf are going thru the same shyt. just sit down and talk to him about it and maybe he will make you understand what is going on.. good luck :)
2006-06-08 10:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by diamondprincezz456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is loves you but in fight he just being mad and so mad but inside his self he feels in love with you.don't do anything just give him time to pass this,do you know its so hard to find true love?don't lose him..
2006-06-08 11:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just the emotions flying around. when you make up its the best
2006-06-08 11:01:45 · answer #11 · answered by Camaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋