I have noticed majority of married men live retarted life they look tired and reason being they are ignored by their respected wives and in Indian culture they cannot share their sorrows,with any female they need to share but they are ignored by other women also it looks that he will not get love from any female on devine grounds he wants emotional,sentimental relations but nobody give response and in my opinion there are more widows in India in compare to other countries men die for want of love they need .
2006-06-08 03:47:52 · 6 answers · asked by sharma 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I don't think married men are the only ones who have problems in this area. I think men AND women feel loss as they age.
Young people have a combination of hormones, urgency, risk-taking, idealism and the feeling of immortality as major drives in their personalities and relationships. After 50 years people of both sexes get more contemplative, desperate, depressed, settled, bored, lazy and their hormone levels don't really help them "push forward" into life from the INSIDE of their bodies.
If a person has made enough poor decisions before 45-50 years old they, many times, just give up on trying to re-invent their life and they begin to "settle". They become less "giving" and less spontaneous. They feel more emotionally fragile.....and sometimes "needy" at the same time.
If your wife was ever your best friend she should remain that way into old-age. Many couples were never REAL friends to begin with....they just got a certificate declaring that they are married. Friendship lasts longer than certificates.
You cannot expect a woman who was having sex out of "obligation" to wedding vows to ever be a lover for life. The emotional/spiritual longings that you are writing about SHOULD still be there at any age, between friends. If you simply want a woman to stay as young and eager as a 30 year old, forever, then you are going to be sadly disappointed.
The friendship aspect of a loving/married relationship is the most important building material in the foundation of a long-time relationship. Age will take away many things. Cross words and misunderstandings can hurt couples for many years. In the end, it is the friendship that will last.
And a good friend will always be there for you to talk, touch and share intimacy.................on some level.
Just don't expect things NEVER to change...........all things change.
It's how we respond to change that makes us available to/for the people we love and who love us.
2006-06-08 04:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by TeaSwami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I understand you correctly, you want to know why a man over the age of 50 is being ignored by his wife. There could be any number of reasons, but the first question comes to mind is...what is "HE" doing to keep the spark in the relationship? Perhaps he shouldn't stay so passive and start becoming a bit aggressive in his emotions and convey his feelings to his wife. After all, she's not a mind-reader and probably feels the same as he does. Simple things to stir those feelings again is all it takes like maybe bringing her flowers, a box of candy - or something that he knows she'll like, perhaps a book she wants to read, a movie she'd like to see. Anything to show a renewed interest in their relationship. Someone has to begin the process and it may as well be him.
2006-06-08 10:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by DianeD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do not disscuss your problem with your wife???
Perhaps you ignored her or took her for granted a bi too many years. Now she has given up on you.
May be she is feeling ignored by you herself.
You are already searching other females to connect with. I doubt you tried to do that with your own wife.
Do not generalise your personal problem. Not all couples end up like that.
2006-06-08 11:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by rian30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men through out time have died of love that's life you just have to keep looking and maybe you may find it good luck mate
PS the lady opinionated said she should love her husband a little more i hope she will and i hope he will love her a little more to.
2006-06-08 10:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by The Wanderer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age he will be like a beat lion, menopause something.
2006-06-08 10:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Walt. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a new one to me, I beter show more love to my husband.
2006-06-08 10:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋