2006-06-08 03:05:47 · 17 answers · asked by cassandra b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, why not? Sometimes the relationship that lasts for only three months could be much more valuable than relationship that lasts for years. What it matters is that people understand each other well and that they like each other and that they could openly talk with each other..
2006-06-08 07:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the problem with this idea... in most cases people don't show all their true colors until after this time period. If you want to get married and deal with the consequences if it doesn't work out, that's your own problem. But bringing a child into the situation is not fair to the child. I can't say that there is a specific time frame that should go by before it's considered, but I definitely think it has to be longer then the 3 months your considering. At 3 months most people are still trying to be who you want them to be and not themselves. DO NOT bring a baby into the world until you know for sure that it's meant to be cause every child deserves to be in a more committed and loving environment.
2006-06-08 03:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Frustrated employee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. It might be slightly different if you have known them a lot longer, and then have only dated them for three months. Because then at least you'd know them a lot better and so forth.
However, three months isn't that long to really determine if this is a person you want to be with forever. A lot of people get mixed up into situations such as this thinking they have the "right" one only to later find out that the person whom they love, isn't who they thought they were.
If the person your with is pressuring you to have a child, or get married then there is definitely something wrong with that. Enjoy the relationship and get to know them better before you make any drastic decisions.
A marriage you can always get out of - but a child you have forever. Please keep that in mind before you make a wrong decision!
2006-06-08 03:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by congruent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I proposed almost 5yrs ago after knowing Lisa for less than 3 months ........ this will be our 4th Yr of married life in July.
We spoke about 'children' in the very early days but actualy having one was/is a different matter. Moving in together, getting wed, buying a home are all selfish things but a baby is something everyone should set things up for! We are going to have kids & knew we would together very early but it's very important that you do it at a point best for the kid and not for you!
As an individual, you can always split, get divorced & split your assets if things go wrong but 'splitting' a kid is a bit of a problem!
2006-06-08 03:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by nickthesurfer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is a stupid idea. You should know a person for at least two years before you have a child with them. Having a child is a massive commitment, perhaps a more important commitment than any other you can have. Do not make this decision lightly. Consider the things that could go wrong, starting with the possibility that he leaves you alone and a single mother.
2006-06-08 03:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it takes a long time to really know someone. How old are you? Dont do it. Wait. Date, have fun and have a relationship first. You really dont know someone untill you have been together for ages. Move in together, if you really want to get married but please dont bring a baby into the world in the kind of relationship that is so new and unsure if it will stand the test of time.
2006-06-08 03:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it's way to soon. Think there needs to be more time gettin to one another another before makin that kinda life change. What if you 2 don't get along in a few mths and then ur left with a baby, and a marriage that doesn't work. It isn't fair to any of you.
2006-06-08 03:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by one with no name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every circumstance is different...some people know immediately and others take years and years. The questions you need to ask yourself are #1 can you see yourself with this person forever (remember that you don't know everything about him yet) #2 are you committed to creating and being responsible for another life with this person and #3 are your feelings sincere and not just whimsical but temporary? Good luck....follow your heart, but use your head!
2006-06-08 03:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It would have to be a dating relationship of at least a year before marriage, sex, or kids happened. Rushing things is begging for trouble.
2006-06-08 03:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you really need to get to know a person atleast for a year before considering marriage.
2006-06-08 03:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋