what would you do??

Question

My partner confessed to me that he had been texting another girl that he met at work and she had been sending him pictures of herself naked.

He also said that he did fancy her but that was it nothing else happened. She has also phoned me and said that she was sleeping with him. He said that she is lying because she wants him to leave me for her which is not going to happen.

What a stupid girl to phone me and lie she nearly lost my baby her daddy and me my partner where do i go from here?

My partner has now changed his number and deleted hers he did this in front of me so i know that he has done it but just very hurt dont know what to do HELP

He also said that he wouldnt go there with her if we did split up anyway not sure if he just enjoyed the attention. At the end of the day i still want to kill her how do i get my anger out ?

Answer 1

i bet she is a s.l.u.t ... (not you the other chick )

Answer 2

Hmm.... well, first things first, it seems you want your relationship to work and that is a good start. It looks like one of two things happened:
1. Your husband cheated on you, the girl threatened to tell you and he panicked, told you about the "affair"himself, but hasn't admitted to actually sleeping with her, and so is blaming it all on her.
2. He was flattered by the attention she was throwing herself at him, but it was a game that went too far, he decided to end it and confess to you what had been going on, and she is trying to stir trouble between you because she has been rejected.

Either way, at some point he realised he did not want to lose you and decided to reject this girl. You now have to decide whether to forgive him and make your marriage work, or leave and start a new life with your child. Only you can decide that. But if you stay with him, it might be a good idea to go to counselling. Even if he didn't actually sleep with this girl, he betrayed you in his actions and his thoughts. He gave his cellphone number to a girl he was attracted to, and he had a secret relationship. This is worrying stuff, and who's to say he won't do something like that again? You need his reassurance that this was a mad moment, a one-off occasion, and not the first of many flings when he is bored. Yes marriage and parenthood can be dull and monotonous at times, but can also bring great comfort and joy, and he made a vow to love you and be your partner, and now you have a baby together too. Look into his eyes when you speak to him about this situation, and make him promise nothing like this will ever happen again. Make it clear to him that if he betrays you like this again, you will leave him. Nothing good can come of a relationship where there is no trust. Good luck.

Answer 3

HI

Thats a very difficult situation. Where did the girl from work get your number and the guts to phone you, wasnt it because of something that your partner told her.

Its really hard to believe the two people because they spend time at work together while you are not there, so whether he has her number and visa versa does not really count.

you can either disregard all this and work out your relationship if you feel that you can forgive and forget.

Remember you have to trust him again if you fail to trust him again it wont work.

I know it hurts girl but sometimes the devil you know is better than a new one taking into account that most men are the same.

As for the hurting you need to pray because no matter what we can say the hurting can only be taken away by one person.

Answer 4

Try not to think about this all the time. Your partner has actually been really honest by admitting everything to you. His getting these pictures are similar to him having visited a porn site when you were not around. So let the incident be. Focus on the baby you are having, shower the kid with positive thoughts and influences only, take a holidday with your partner to make up and out!

Answer 5

Well, if he did sleep with her, he's going to lie to you. He'll lie with a straight face and a tear in his eye. Understand the human element. Emotionally, he has already cheated on you. So, in essence, your partner cheated on you.

Did he tell you before or after the phone call? And why did this woman call? For the woman to have the boldness to call insinuates that he did more than just talk and look. It insinuates that he did enough for that woman to feel that she has rights on your "partner."

If this girl was doing this, your "partner" was entertaining the notion. He must have opened that door enough for this girl to think that it was ok to do this.

Then again, there is a remote possibility that he is telling you the truth. Remote is an understatement. But there is that possibility.

To forgive him or kick his *** to the curb...is something you have to decide.

Answer 6

changing celphone number and deleting the girl's number from his list is quite a big move, i should say... but honestly, he can still have that number in his mind, it is still possible for him to call her up.
but i think, he is looking for something that he found with this girl. frankly, sex plays a very big role in relationship. spice it up a bit and see what it can do.
nagging is another no-no in any relationship. don't be a nagger (if you are one). even if you're right, just tell him but don't nag.
life is hard, nobody wants to live a hard life. the least that you can do with your partner is... be happy and look at the bright side of things in your life.
but always try to open your eyes and your ears!!! a "twister" could come back and devastate you again!

Answer 7

Oh dear, poor you! What a ra he is in the first place, you can bet your bottom dollar that he asked for a naked picture of her and being the floozy she is, she obliged. It depends just how much you love him if you are willing to forgive and forget, if you do that there will always be a feeling at the back of your mind that he could be doing it again. I feel for you, especially as you have a baby on the way. I hope all goes well for you and you make the right decision for your baby AND more importantly yourself.

Answer 8

Sounds like you are both young.
If a girl comes on to a guy like that he is going to respond. It is flatering to have a woman throw herself at you.
He should have stopped it at the first. That he didn't was wrong.
BUT he did come clean (I don't know if he was caught or if he stepped up) and he took steps with you watching to correct the situation.
BUT he sounds young and his juices are flowing so he is going to be tempted.
Best thing I can say is:
Talk, a lot, often, and intimately about how you want you both to work out.
Make sure you keep his attention. If he does not have a chance to have another female in his crosshairs, then he can't hunt. Keep yourself where he can see you, keep his attention, and take up all his time with what you want him to concentrate on, you.

Answer 9

Dizzy, honey if he did this once to you, he'll continue to do it again. Unless you can trap him into saying that he loves you so much that he will MARRY you, then go from there. Follow your heart, and your mind. He more than likely asked for naked pictures from this person, even if your pregnant, ( or just gave birth) you can still,make your love life more appealing to him.Dress yourself up, or maybe make him think your going out with some of your girl friends. Make yourself up so good it might make him think your doing other things. Good luck Dear and try to keep a positive outlook on this nasty situation.

Answer 10

Ms, the fact that he was looking for another girl should wake you up. He can tell you anything if you let him. She must know him pretty well, if she had your number. I think baby or no baby you should get out of that mess before he tells you he could not help it she forced him. Wake up Ms there are still afew honest men out here.

Answer 11

I don't believe him. For a girl to be sending naked pictures he must have been having sex with her. She say's she had sex with him and I believe her. What to do now only you can choose, you could forgive him but personally I would find that difficult. Especially as I don't think he's even told you the truth now.