My friend offered me to go to the theatre today. He knows I hate going there. I suggested going to the cinema. He dissagrees. What should I say to convince him? How to prove to him the film watching is a relaxing thing, not boring. He's so stubborn.
2006-06-08 02:43:42 · 11 answers · asked by faraway 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Is he stubborn??? It seems that both of you are the same. He wants to take you to the theater, and you want to take him to the cinema.
You can't prove to him that movies are more relaxing since he likes it. It is a preference. You can go with him to the theater and he can see how you don't enjoy you, that is if you didn't! and later he wouldn't ask you again.
Have you ever been in a theater, and saw a good show, you might be surprise. I have been in some that I wanted to see over and over, and some which I walked out in the middle of it. You will never know until you try it.
My dear, you are both the same. Strong welled mind. You can do both the theater one day, and the movie another, it doesn't have to be one or the other. Enjoy your life, and have lots of fun. you will never know what is fun if you refuse to try it.
Good Luck :)
2006-06-08 04:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sierra Leone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I get this right?
From what it sounds like, he invited you to go somewhere with him as part of being friends, and you're frustrated with him for not dropping his plans in order to go somewhere different where YOU wanted to go?
That's a little... odd.
Okay, so maybe he knows you're not very fond of theater. At least it was nice to be asked, and you can always just say, "No, you can tell me how it was later."
Better yet, why can't you do halfsies with him (barring price)? This week, go with him to the theater. Next week, take him to the movies. It won't kill either of you, and you could both learn to appreciate a form of art you previously haven't found interesting.
(Personally, I find value in both the theater and the cinema, depending on the story and quality.)
Besides, you're friends. Friends learn to value what their friends value, even if they don't personally value it on their own. Cinema and theater are two different forms, and I can understand that he might value the "live" quality of theater versus the "canned" quality of a film (which always plays out the same way no matter how often you watch it and is a detached rather than "live" art form.)
It doesn't mean you're obligated to favor what he favors all the time; but maybe you guys could discuss what you both enjoy about your favorite performance art (s) and gain a deeper appreciation for each other, rather than arguing about who should be forced to go where the other person wants.
(And if he was planning to treat you... well, theater can be expensive, so I'd say to enjoy it while you can!)
Hope things worked out for both of you.
2006-06-13 10:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes going to the theatre, you don't. You like going to the movies, he doens't. Likes and dislikes, don't try to change it. Only creates more conflict. Adjustment is your answer. Why even try to change him, to fit your needs? You like watching movies, go alone, or take along someone who ALSO likes watching movies. Don't try to force him to come with you. You wouldn't like it if he kept pushing you to join him in the theatre, would you?
Give him his space, and you retain yours. Try taking another friends along for the movies if you don't want to go alone.
And honey, if he is stubborn, so are you :)
2006-06-08 02:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sumtimes its difficult actaully impossible convincing ppl...
wud u get convinced by him....???
may be if u cud listen to ur friend once.. n ur frnd sees ur not beind stubborn may be next time ur frnd listens to u..
hav to handle such situations very delicately..
if ur frnd sees the change in u they `ll be a change in ur frnd.
put urself in others shoes n think how would u react.. thngs becum easier n less complicated...
2006-06-08 03:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by problemcreator2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. They are set in their opinion, just as you are set in yours. You just have to respect each other's opinion and try to comprimise that you'll both do what the other wants occasionally, or decide that you just don't do either of those things together.
How would you feel if he tries to change your opinion? I can almost guarantee you'd be upset with him for it.
2006-06-08 02:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur correct why should u convince them
if u want 2 convince them better 2 talk in openly
2006-06-08 02:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by mahi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wise to force people do things they don't want to do. Go by yourself or with other friends.
2006-06-08 02:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Drofsned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart you can not convince him to change his opinion... You could try and explain yours... He will respect you more if you respect his opinion...
2006-06-08 02:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a pistol often wins over those who disagree. I suggest purchasing one.
2006-06-08 02:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by http://fuelthearmy.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you a beer if you come...the rest is blah blah blah ..
hell say Beeeeeeeer ok what are we talking about??
2006-06-08 02:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋