Why are men never as understanding about things as women are? Why are they more condescending?

Answer 1

We have that thing we call "intuition." We are the motherly type and we do CARE.

Men are condescending because they want to be the "father figure," it is in their genes.

Answer 2

Well, it's not as clear-cut as that. I've found some women who are insufferable to work for (usually because they're controlling and aren't interested in other opinions) and I've found men who are kind and sympathetic.

But I do understand why you're asking the question. Men in general seem to indulge their pride more when it comes to workplace competence, and they also can be impersonal in their attacks on people. IOW, they will relate to someone by criticizing or critiquing their behavior/decisions/competence in a situation that did not call for it, and then don't understand when some people are hurt by their comments.

Men are geared by nature and socialization to simply throw their weight around and shrug off any damage. Some men are still sensitive to criticism, but many don't even seem to notice the small emotional scrapes and burns they can levy on other or that they themselves receive. It's simply a "sparring" contest, like two bucks tangling horns, and afterwards life moves on.

Women tend to work "within" relationships more, both by nature (they're wired for it) and by socialization (they've had to learn). The "nurturing" behavior is intrinsic to the female gender. They're geared more to encourage, to sympathize, and so forth. Their interactions (both good and bad) tend as a whole to be more personal, and their attacks tend to be more personal as well.

Anyway, I think this lends itself to a man acting in a condescending way towards those who he believes are less competent, less smart, or less powerful than himself. Sometimes he doesn't realize he's doing it; sometimes he just doesn't care or doesn't see what the big deal is, and the other guy should just "suck it up."

I think it's wrong for a man to demean others or place himself more highly than them. However, I do think a man's general detachment/impersonalness, while detrimental in some ways, is a strength in situations that call for quick effective action or enduring sudden hardship in emotionally tough situations.

(And for example, while I would not want to visit a male family doctor who was condescending or unable to see other points of view, I might find an impersonal and somewhat self-important surgeon to be more coldly competent if I had a serious medical problem that had to be fixed.)

Answer 3

For the most part, men have been MORE understanding towards me than women, ( excluding here- that's pretty equal), in day to day life, women are the ones that are less tolerant towards me.In conversations they are "shocked" at what I have to say (I can be BLUNT), offended all that good stuff.
The guys I know are the first ones to offer a shoulder to cry on and an ear and words of comfort when things go wrong, and those are the bada$$ guys I know. Maybe you just don't know the right men?

Answer 4

Its not that they are not understanding. I think most of them are just problem solvers. They don't want to talk things out, they want to know what the problem is then find a solution. What they don't understand is that sometimes we (females) might have a problem that doesnt need "fixing". We just want to unload the pressure, maybe cry a little, get hugged then we will feel better.
But I don't think they are condescending at all. They just speak a different language than we do. Thats what makes it so much fun

Answer 5

Women tend to use both halves of their brains at the same time. This may be due to a biological difference which allows most women to multitask much easier than most men.

Men tend to use either right half or left half of their brains, but only half at a time. They also tend to stay in the "logical rational" half most of the time (not in their "creative" half). This could be the cause of "less understanding."

As for the condescension. This seems to be socially learned. Some men are worse than others.

Answer 6

Because we men tend to only be able to relate to physical things and have trouble understanding feelings and putting them into words. I get resistance from one-dimensional types of guys and can relate well with the women friends that I have. Most ask me for help with their men and I try to help. But it really isn't my business and they respect that. But all the guys do is brag about sex. I tell them isn't there time in their lives to take a few minutes and be grateful for all that they have been blessed with and be thankful for. But those opportunities are dwindling because they can't deal with evolution. They wish to remain the knuckle-dragging apes that their knuckle-dragging dad's let them become. And I move on and try to grow.

Answer 7

Never say never.

They just think differently. They use different methods of comparison and different methods of communication. They're male. . .you'll never connect the same way as with a woman. . .which is why you must have girlfriends all through life. I've found a few in passing that are good communicators, but they are still different. They don't just listen, they think they're responsible for fixing everything. It's just the way they're wired, and as much as that's hard to deal with, I wouldn't change it. Why? Because it would change some of the other stuff about them that attracts me to them. They're different, and that's good. . . most of the time.

Answer 8

cause they just werent made that way...women are suppose to be nurtuing loving and understanding...where men are meant to be providers ,hunters and well not understanding ...

Answer 9

men are realist, women like liberals ,live in a dream world...

Answer 10

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