He doesn't call her unless he missed her call, or if she messages him, he'll message her back, he says that she doesn't like him, but why does she have to call him? I don't know this girl, so I don't know what her intentions are. Should I trust this girl?
2006-06-08 02:42:23 · 12 answers · asked by hmoore92003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You definitly need to meet this girl. You can usually read what someone's intentions are in person. If you can tell she's hitting on him, make him stop all contact. Besides, a woman that you don't know shouldn't be calling your husband. Also, find out what they are messaging back and forth and what their conversations are about, and where does he know this girl from? These are things you need to find out, then you can asses the situation.
2006-06-08 03:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by mommysboys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The questions here DO YOU TRUST your husband??? If there is a good communication between you & your husband ask him WHY ??? the reason of this calls & who is this person in his live?
Be honest with him I tell that you don't like the way he is behaving with her that you need to have some respect cuz you are his wife. Then put it the other way ask him I f he wouldn't mind for a "friend" to call you or leave you messages. He is a men I he might say is not the same thing.
BUT it is cuz he is not respecting you as his wife. IF this doesn't work then call this"friend" & ask her directly who is she?? don't be afraid of her, she will insist that she is just a friend, but be honest with her too. Tell her that you don't like the relationship she has w/ ur husband to STOP calling him or text messaging. That he is a married men & she need to respect you.
But actually with the one who you need to put the things CLEAR is w/ ur husband push him so you can have a real & HONEST answer from him. If non of this things work, I'm sorry 2 tell you buit there should be something going on between them, but they will not accepted & will always say NO. I had a similar experience, I end up divorcing & after few months of my divorce they got married. So be careful & don't let them play w/ your feelings of make you look stupid. You need to be more intellingent that they are, GOOD LUCK finding your aswer..
2006-06-08 04:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this isn't about the girl, it's about your husband. She is acting on his desire for attention from her. You need to have a serious talk with your husband and lay down some boundaries. BUT, before you do that, you need to sit down with yourself for a few minutes with pen and paper and write down what boundaries mean to you. What do they mean to you?
A good rule of thumb is "IF I SHOULDN'T HEAR IT, SEE IT OR READ IT, YOU SHOULDN'T DO IT." That pretty much encompases everything. Now what is it that's acceptable to you? Personally, IMO, this is not acceptable. So BE VERY CLEAR AND SPECIFIC with your husband and let him know what is acceptable and what isn't. If he can't respect those boundaries, let him know that there are consequences just as there would be if you were the culprit.
A conversation that you will have with your husband might go something like this "Listen, I am very bothered by these phone calls and messages. It doesn't matter whether or not she likes you or you like her, it's about my feelings towards the situation so it needs to stop. you need to let her know that it's innapropriate and it needs to stop". PERIOD. It doesn't matter if he argues with you and defends it or her, this is about YOU and YOUR FEELINGS-get it??? YOU not her.
Unfortunately, because it's gone this far, it's most likely going to mean that he will be more discreet about it but at least he will be clear on the boundaries and he'll understand the consequences if he can't control his behavior or someone else's in the future.
If you don't deal with this, it will turn into a bigger problem in the future either with her or someone else so make the lines clear NOW.
2006-06-08 03:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST NO ONE!!!! Cruel Intentions I tell ya. Cruel Intentions. Tell your husband to respect your mind and stop the calls or there will be repercussions.
2006-06-15 00:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by 4real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl isn't an old friend that is important to him or someone he has to talk to regarding work in his off hours,, NOPE you don't trust her or him either.
Time to sit down and guide him into an open honest conversation regarding why he talks with her.
2006-06-08 02:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should include you if she is a friend, he should of introduced you to her and not hide anything from you. Once you meet her you will know whether to trust her or not. Until then I would not trust him or her.
2006-06-08 02:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust her and if you ever meet her ask her for her boyfriends number so you can call him all the time and she how she feels about it.
2006-06-08 03:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by chemicalbrothers13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never underestimate anyone... Have you asked your husband who she is? Why she is calling him?
I would ask him those questions.. Because if it doesn't have to do with business or it's not a mutual friend of yours, then she should not be calling him...
2006-06-08 02:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband shouldnt be even communicating with another woman unless he has a good reason. dont trust her-and you need to talk to her yourself.
2006-06-08 02:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by babyblues0213 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer the phon and invite her for drinks, that is what I did in this situation. The first thing this girl said to me when we met is "you arent fat and ugly like he said you are".
trust me, watch out.
2006-06-08 02:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by proud mommy and wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋