why doesnt my girlfriend understand that i like some time for myself?

Answer 1

There are different types of personalities. Some of us extroverts really don't "get" needing time alone because we just don't have that "programmed" into us for lack of better phrasing.

You may want to try some communication exercises within your relationship to help with expressing more clearly your needs. Eventually after much trying and communicating either she will understand that you are different from her or she won't.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

We like spending time with the man in our lives who makes us happy But anything in excess is too much. Talk to her and let her know that you BOTH have other interests in your life and while you like to share and spend time with her, there are things you must attend to that don't include her. If she can't understand this then she's emotionally needy and is really not mentally healthy enough for a relationship. At least not with you. There are other guys out there who are just as clingy (it's not only women) and perhaps she'd be better off with one of them.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Im exactly the same...but I'm an extrovert...I never want time to myself...very rarely anyway. I just wanna be with my boyfriend all the time cos I love him to pieces! Without sounding really clingy or posessive!! It's just a woman thing. When men say that, it's almost like we're paranoid WE'VE done something wrong...

Answer 4

lets not be to hard on your girlfriend, How long have you been together? Have you given her reason to feel this way? Has she been hurt before? explain that you just need some time out, then maybe take her some where special or do something nice for her, give her something positive to look forward to instead of worrying what you are doing, she sounds very insecure, be firm but don't be to hard on her

Answer 5

I would say because she wants all of the attention now since you are with her. I can admit that is how I was with my boyfriend. I would get mad when he went out with his boys but I had to understand that his life doesn't revolve around me. And I think that your girl has to realize that. Maybe the two of you should sit down and talk about it together.

Answer 6

Explain that there are some times when you need to be alone or with the guys.

Let her know that she is important, and you will be there for her on all the special occasions and duties but there are times when you need alone time so you don't get grouchy and take things out on her.

Answer 7

Because when a guy tells his girl he needs time for himself us women thinks there is a problem. And maybe the problem might be us. But sometimes we women go a little extreme and think the guy is cheating. That's why we don't give our men "time alone"

Answer 8

Girls.......they love bast*rds.......(oh yes you do,...well most of you anyway, No I dont mean guys that hit or abuse women or any of that nonsense but just, well - bast*rds who are a bit aloof and not too clingy or overemotional) and subscribe to the idea that all of us are bastar*s. She will automaticly think that you dont love her or are up to something when your not with her. The irony is that when guys do "change" and become all loving, emotional and unbast*rdy they dont like it and seem to not like the fact that you have changed and dont like you for your weakness.
The more I know women - less less I know women.

Answer 9

Coz girls only think of there self all the time mate ,when she wants to be alone i bet its ok but when u want to be on your own she has a fit over it ,like going out its wrong to do that with out her

Answer 10

Insecurity and immaturity.
If you love her, then help her find some things that are just her interests that she gets excited about. Then she can mature and be happy with herself rather than feeling like she has to have every moment with you to be happy.