why is it some people get on really well in life,and find good things come to them very easily,?

Question

i was just wondering why it is some people get on really well in life and seem to have great things happening and not really having to try to hard,
whilst other people try really hard and seem to struggle with having anything nice happening to them,
are there really winners and losers in life,are some people really blessed with good luck ?

Answer 1

It does seem like some people just have bad luck. But, I think it comes down to choices people make in their lives. People make choices, and choices make people.

Answer 2

Well, you really have a question there. You'll probably get some Mormons writing you about predestination from the fall of Lucifer and all the souls who battled him on God's side . . . and other nonsense.

However, the real answer comes in four flavors: B. NATURE, C. NURTURE and D. CHOICES are obvious and as George Burns playing the part of God said in the movie "Oh, God!" a lot of it is A. LUCK. Because while we might criticize someone for living near a volcano; or in an earthquake zone; or near a river highly susceptible to flooding; etc., in the final evaluation we all have to be somewhere and if everybody wanted to live safely and benignly in Central Germany than a host of other problems caused by overpopulation would arise and kill off just as many any way. So luck, as in being on the highway when that rock slide hits, plays a big part.

B. Nature? Well, if you get the sickly genes, you might be able to do something about it a la Teddy Roosevelt, but if you get the really sickly ones like cystic fibrosis or the like: you're just plain shafted. On a less than mortal level, a lot of health and mental health and even psychological make up is right there written in the DNA. And we see and read about less (?) serious levels of problems caused by nurture such as being born in a country undergoing a famine, etc. every day.

C. Nurture? If your parents leave you or neglect you or abuse you: you'll have a mighty tough row to hoe. If, however, they murder you or abandon you or abort you (I'm not against abortion, just painting a full picture here) then the die is cast and you die young. And of course death is not the only thing that can go wrong. The law books now are filling up with wrongful life cases: where the life created is so utterly impossible and painful that it's considered worse than death, or more to the point legally: worse than NOT being born. Lesser situations are obviously around us and making the evening news all the time.

D. So it looks like for the most part, the only thing we can control is our choices. This is obvious when it comes to health, for example. A man of 55 who practices 6-7 of the seven golden rules of health has the same expected 'death day' according to the actuaries as a man of 20 who practices 0-1 of the key rules. Obviously, choices in the people and situations and things and thoughts and words we allow into our life can be crucial. And since your choices are the only thing you DO control . . . that's the place to put your emphasis for making your life one of the fortunate ones rather than a hell on earth. Good luck!

Answer 3

I used to ask myself the same question; now that I'm older, I think that there ARE some reasons that some seem blessed with good fortune, while others aren't. There are factors like the family that you are born into; surely this would effect how a person's life evolves? I have known some really stable and decent folk and their children did really well in life. Then again, I have known some really violent/abusive type family situations, and the children from those families were doing rather poorly in life and not surviving well. I am sure that other people notice this sort of thing all the time. I am wondering about the answer; and then there are some that say it's all about "Karma" and "what goes round, comes round" and if we're to believe that .. .. ..it means that if you follow golden rules things should go well!
Hope this helped some.

Answer 4

Before we are born, our prenascent selves get to select the difficulty level of our life. Some are cautious and select "Easy" and others are daring and select "Really Freaking Difficult" and some are just plain crazy and select "Totally impossible!" That latter group gets aborted before they are born, which is what you get for making such a foolish prenacent decision!

Yes, it's all about decisions. Some people decide that they will be mentally retarded or get hit by a car and have brain damage while others decide to be born to rich parents plus have a high IQ. Some decide that their parents should take drugs and neglect them. Who needs parents anyhow, right?

No, luck - defined as the circumstances under which you were born and were supposedly beyond your control - is not involved at all. It's all about pushing the right difficulty control buttons before you start the simulation. The thing is that most people forget about the buttons either at the time they were born or earlier. Luckily, I remembered and am here to tell you there is no degree of difficulty that you didn't put on yourself, so you can feel safe telling people that it is all the individual's fault and not have to concern yourself with seeming like you're a morally lazy selfish twit.

On the really bright side, given that we are all playing our own life games, we also get to select our own victory conditions! Sometimes all a person aspires to is being able to survive. Sometimes a person wants true love. Sometimes they want a fantastic bod and lots of sex. Sometimes they think having the most money means they win. In absolute reality, however, all of that means exactly SQUAT, so you don't have to feel pressured by your success or failure because it is ultimately meaningless.

If you are still feeling bad though, there is one major consolation that still exists for the time being: everybody eventually dies What happens next? I bet the whole thing starts over again! Whee!

Answer 5

Maybe yes, maybe no. Reason:

Possiblity #1:
It depends on the way the mind thinks, in other words, the person's attitude. Some people are rather optimistic and appreciative, and they don't tell others about their troubles and struggles.

Possibility #2:
If you believe in reincarnation, perhaps some people had a hard time in their previous life / did a great deed and so in this life, it's the opposite and vice versa.

Possibility #3:
This is one of the uneXplained stuff, like Jesus, and how knowledge is infinite. Fate. The winners and losers. Or you can blame it on genetics.

IMO, The losers should change his way of thinking, learning from the winners; and thus we go back to possibility #1. There have been so many cases of people who are 'losers' becoming huge 'winners'.

Answer 6

Amanda the fact that you are asking this question means that you are aware, awake, fully embracing life. And that is as it should be.
Consider this: What is your perspective verses what the perspective is of those who seem to "have great things happen to them"? Have you ever asked them if the things that seem great to you are great to them? Also what is behind the veil of those who seem to have great things....are they inwardly happy? Do they have inner peace? Perhaps, or perhaps not.
Some people are geared with personalities that seem to enjoy the struggle....if nice things happen to them they hardly notice at all, or are happy in their misery. That might seem a strange statement or observation, but ask a person that outwardly struggles with life, or is "trying really hard", what if anything they are doing to change where they are. You might get a blank glare, or an angry remark. Those people are not fully aware. They are not loosers, they are just not aware of the state they are in. It is their drama.
We are all truly blessed - if we eat each day at least three nutricious meals a day, if we can get out of bed, if we do not suffer from a major illness, if we do not have bombs exploding in our back yards, if we have a job, if we have a safe place to sleep each night, and people who truly care about us....then we are truly blessed. We are winners. If we have a heart that beats and a mind that thinks....we are winners.
Perspective is the key, look within, count your blessings, and notice that you are a winner....struggle less....and allow space for more good things. For a river does not run up hill, it does not struggle.

Answer 7

Let's see... my ex-boyfriend had the luck where he would do nothing and get almost anything he wanted. I have a hobby in astrology and it says his sign (Pisces) will go far without any work effort. For a simple example: he found 2 four-left clovers in one day. For a more realistic example: in high school he would goof around a whole bunch in art and somehow he got chosen to work on a picture model for the school holiday emblem. My ex hardly works really hard in life and simple solutions just happen to fall in his lap.
But compared to my neighbors, no matter hard how they try, just when things start to look good, some bomb blows up in their faces. Take their life into context. They have the crummiest of luck. The guy got his girlfriend pregnant when she was 19 and he's only 3 years older than her so, it doesn't help them any better. Before she got pregnant the family didn't like him. And after the baby was 2 years old they moved from Boston to GA. Ever since then her family has cast her out. Completely ignoring their grandchild. And to make maters worse, he is a foster child with a mother who died from cancer. And now since no one really helps them out that much (and sometimes even if they do) they feel like they will never get out of debt or the dismal place they live in.
So, in my opinion, in a way there are winners and losers in life. But as I see it it is how you make the best of it. Like my neighbors: they should be happy that they have 2 healthy kids (new baby) and are alive and well. For compared to the rest of the world they are more lucky than most.

Answer 8

You would be suprised at how from the outside some people look like they lead seemingly charmed lives, but underneath their lives are anything but. From my experience, life takes a lot of hard work, organization, planning and, when all else fails, trial and error. I think at times in life some people get lucky. Some are born into naturally wealthy families where they will never have to worry about money their entire lives. Some are blessed with extraordinarily good looks and become rich and famous and seemingly loved by all. But I also believe that most good things in life do not come without some sort of price. I think that if you take the time to look a little deeper under the surface of things you may see what I mean. I hope this helps.

Answer 9

This is all speculation, However I think that "Luck" should be turned into the word "Lessons" Some Native Americans belive that you will experience every lesson on the spoke of the wheel, good and bad, unfortunatly you will also repeat the wheel if the lesson good or bad goes unlearned. Hence forth the saying, "if I only knew then what I know now", Everything you do or say begins an experiece in life that you will eventually have to come to terms with and learn somthing from. If you do you will know what to do the next time if not you will repeat it till you figure it out. If you do you will begin to walk in balance with life. You may not ever become rich with money but riches in spirit are far better and really the Great Spirit would rather us become closer to him through the spirit then closer to the bank. Luck is no more then Lessons of the spirit each person is different so his or her path to thier own spirituality is different. Not luck just learning about yourself and trying to become spiritually whole through the adversity of life.

Answer 10

I am the type of person who works hard for everything in life. Nothing is easy is life. Some people were bless with money and some were not. If you want something work hard for it. Some people were bless with good boyfriends, and husbands. I can't seem to find the right guy, but I will not give up. I will be a winner in life not a loser.

Answer 11

I wouldn't say I'm blessed with good luck, but I certainly am blessed. My mom has said I live a charmed life, and I can't argue with her.

For me personally, I think I was raised in a loving 2-parent home which really does make a difference. I'm intelligent, so learning comes natural to me. It's not that I'm not a hard worker- I am and always have been. But I don't have to try as hard as other people to understand and retain information. I'm also the type of person who is told how NOT to act and then follows directions. I've never been one to step on toes, and if I'm told that smoking gives you cancer, I'll stay away from smoking. I don't see the point in making careless decisions. I plan ahead and reach my goals because of that. I don't take risks that would cause me to have "bad luck" or struggle.
On top of that, I'm a saved woman. This has made a tremendous difference in my life. I can look back on my "charmed" life and know that things have gotten even better since I've been saved. So blessed, yes, but with luck- nope. Hard work, natural ability, and faith.