2006-06-08 01:32:49 · 21 answers · asked by beaufortgirl_1972 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
every men loves a lez show , but it desent mean that they like their partner to do that
2006-06-08 01:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing, by the nature of how this is phrased, that the porn your husband watches is of the girl-girl nature?
His reasons could be many sided. For example, your husband might actually want to please you sexually. (I know, the shock and horror of the thought.) The thought that you're with another woman might, in some dark corner of his mind, say to him that he's not good enough in bed. Assure him that he is your sex god, and that if this happens with your girlfriend, it will be fun, but that you will still need a man, and not just any man, but only him.
It might be that he's afraid of what people will think of him, including what your girlfriend would think of him. What kind of man "lets" his wife sleep with other people? He's afraid people will think he's not good enough, or that he's stupid, or whatever. You'll have to make sure this is discreet, if that's the case.
He might also be afraid you're thinking of leaving him for your girlfriend. If that's the case, I'm not sure what you can do... get out the rolling pin and start beating him about the head until he wakes up and realizes you wouldn't be asking if that were the case sounds reasonable.
There are other alternatives: if you're okay with sharing the experiance with him (which, just by how you phrased your question, it sounds like you are) then you and your friend could seduce him together. That way, he's more-or-less agreeing as you go, and he could stop it at any time if he wanted, and you and your friend can control the action a little, making sure that he gets attention, and you both get a chance to give eachother attention.
2006-06-08 09:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beaufort,
I am guessing your question is really why doesn't your husband want you to have sex with a female friend (which you would be willing to do) when he has no problem watching porn?
Fantasy is different than reality. He probably loves the thought, it turns him on but the reality is too threatening, and rightfully so. Chances are he questions your intentions, if you will enjoy it more and if you will pick her over him. If your intentions are respectable, talk with him about it in an nonthreatening way. If your intentions are not as pure, that there are feelings, you want to do it in spite of your husband, etc. then you need to really look at yourself and your marriage. Your husband my senses these feelings and attempting to stop them before it gets too far.
One thing I can tell you from personal experience. Once you have sex with another partner outside the marriage, it will be with you forever after that (even if your partner is aware, there and doing it with you). There is no going back. Even if it a one time thing. It changes things forever. Make sure you are willing to take on that change for better or for worse. And the way you think you (and he) will react, well chances are, you will react very different.
Good Luck and many smiles,
Mis
2006-06-08 08:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching porn is one thing. It is just a movie. You are talking about going and having sex with an acutal person. Those two are not even in the same realm. Being that it is a girl and your friend doesn't change the fact that you are having sex with a real life human being as opposed to him liking to watch porn.
If you offered to watch lesbian porn with him I'm sure he wouldn't say no. Or you offered a threesome the idea would probably go over better.
2006-06-08 08:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a partner not a dog... it shouldn't matter if your husband "allows" it-- this is something that should be decided together.
BUT, if you love your husband, you shouldn't get into some one-time sexual experiment that will hurt him and devastate his trust.
What if you suggested that it go both ways-- that he could have a fling with another woman (or man for that matter) if you can endulge your curiosity? Or, maybe you could suggest he join you two (if your female friend is okay with that)?
2006-06-08 08:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by katunich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being very selfish. I say go for it. If he don't like it tell him to quit watching porn and you won't do it with your girl friend. Hey wish I was there. I'd love to watch you and your friend get it on.
2006-06-08 08:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't like the idea of sharing me. By the way, have you forgotten that when you marry someone you are supposed to "forsake all others"? This is why the sanctity of marriage is under attack. It's quite sad actually.
2006-06-08 10:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because it's still cheating. I myself consider watching a porn a form of cheating, but you actually sleeping with your friend is cheating even though it's a girl. Please be faithful to your husband.
2006-06-08 08:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by *~*~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't like the thought of his wife being like the girls in porn and he may not want to share you whether it is with a female or male
2006-06-08 08:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who tells u to tell ure husband that u wanna hav sex with ure girlfriend. when ure husband is not there enjoy it or tell ure hubby not to watch or enjoy porn.
2006-06-08 08:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_sniggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is afraid you will like it too much and jump the fence. Yes, he likes to watch it but does not want that to be you for that reason.
2006-06-08 08:36:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋