We have been together 1 year, 8 months. It just isn't working for me anymore and I really want to break up. We just moved into our own apartment but I am paying everything because she doesn't have money! I hate it. I want to break up with her but she has a HUGE test at the end of July... should I hold out until after the test? If she doesn't live with me, her classes and test will be about 2 hours away because she would have to live with her parents again.
2006-06-08 01:27:37 · 20 answers · asked by betterlife_travel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's commendable that you are considering her needs in this. This is such an unfortunate situation because it's apparent that whle you want out of the relationship, you also still care very much about her. I would say if it's not too big of a hardship on you, hold out until July. Because if you break up with her now, it will definately disrupt her life. She'll be emotinally hurt and will find herself in the middle of having to move and it'll be hard enough without having that move be back in with her parents.
HOWEVER, you are entitled to your happiness. If it's really something you can no longer live with, then you must end it now. Yes she'll be hurt but she'll get over it and she'll live. You should do whats best for you. Hopefully you can turn this into a win/win situation for you both by holding out until after July.
Good luck.
2006-06-08 01:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's really great that you're thinking about her feelings and what might happen with her test. This one is a tough one, though. On one hand, you really need to do what makes you happy. I can tell she's still important to you, but you can't be miserable just because of her. On the other hand, you might stress her out before her test and make things bad for her. Wow, I really don't envy you at all. I guess if it were me, I'd wait until after the test to keep from adding stress to her life. But I'd live my life. I wouldn't sit and be miserable just because she has a test. I'd go out and do my own thing. Just remember....just because you don't want to be with her doesn't give you the right to go out with someone else. Not yet. You're still techincally her boyfriend until you tell her otherwise. But you can still go out with your friends and have fun. That might be helpful for you anway. To have some alone time, meaning you're not spending all your time with a girlfriend. Enjoy your life. Tell her after her test. Neither of you deserve to be miserable. Good luck!
2006-06-08 08:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by *~*~*~*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should wait until then. have soome consideration that her grades are on the line. when she is finished with her test then let her have it. but do u want to be responsible for her failing her tests. if she loves you this will definatly interfere with her studying. think of it this way would u like it if this were you? think if u were in ,love with some one and they hit u with this right before your test. you would want to be with this person and there would be nothing but the distraction of you instead of focusing on her test. when u drop the bomb as soon as her test is complete let her know that u were going to do it sooner and that you were at least nice enough to keep taking care of her until after her exams. let her know you can not play her daddy by taking care of her and it is time that she moves back in with her parents and stops free loading off of you. she is not your wife. you are still young and you need to save your moneey for your future not take care of her. good luck
2006-06-08 08:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerK! She is better off without you!! You knew what the score was when you got a place together at the start! It was no big revelation to you that she was a student and had no income, now you decide to bail out on her.
She is better off without you. If you can't be man enough to pay for things knowing that was the situation you are a shallow PiG!
2006-06-08 08:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. July is only a month away. Wait until after she has finished her test,
2006-06-08 08:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really hard. I have been with my fiance for 2 years. i think if i had a test and we broke it off i would just die. I think you should tell her after the test. maybe hold out maybe things will get better.
2006-06-08 08:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah because you will hurt her and she might feel the test yall been together this long what make you want to break up with her she must love you to be with you this long all you are going to do is hurt her and she probably might be like boys are fake and i dont want them no more in my life
2006-06-08 08:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by MiSsySexii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw man! no offense but your reason for breaking up is just so unbelievably selfish. anyways, just because you don't have sympathy especially to someone who's been with you that long doesn't mean you can't fake one for the last and probably the only time. wait til she's done with the test please for goodness sake.
2006-06-08 08:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by JT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's not working anymore then its better to call it quits.It's no use pretending to one another but pleeese make sure its after her test. it can throw her off balance and make her fail then u would blame yourself for it..Try and be subtle when doing it so that you can still remain friends afterwards. Good luck
2006-06-08 08:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course that would be the gentlemanly thing to do...
BUT, if you are like most guys, since you have already decided to break up with her, you're probably going to be a real asshole to her (since you will resent staying with her just for her big test), which will probably be even worse for her than a fast clean break up ASAP.
2006-06-08 08:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by katunich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋