Gay... definition and distinction?

Question

I have noticed some bizarre behaviour in response to gay people... i use to know this guy who was severely homophobic, if a gay guy walked anywhere near him he would have beaten the guy up, but when he saw two gay women he wouldn't freak at all.

I come from an intensely religious family, and they also disapprove of gay men, but don't prejudice gay women.

What is so unnatural about two men being together when it seems acceptable for two women to be?

Answer 1

Homophobia is often directed toward gay men because of what a person fears or imagines.

Some (but not all) men are so disturbed by what they think or are able to visualize might happen to them that they will avoid any contact with gay men, but they are excited by the idea of two women. It shows how the male ego is, that they think every gay man would be interested in them. I also think it can be difficult for these men to be able to show affection for other men, even close friends, out of fear of how they will be perceived.

There is a relationship here with the idea of what is means to "be a man." Certainly since the Greeks, males who either behave or dress in ways that are regarded as "feminine" have been objects of ridicule and scorn (more against the idea of masculinity than morality) -- but women who behave or act in "masculine" ways have not been subjected to the same extent. And, since men who are attracted to other men are largely regarded as stereotypically "feminine," they are treated in the same way.

It's not a stretch to see, then, that homophobia has its roots in a disregard, if not disdain, for women. For many straight people (especially straight men), there is no difference between the feminine and gay men. Most Western religious texts have statements not only about homosexual behavior, but also about how men should be superior to women.

Some translations of religious texts have been amended to add lesbian behaviors, but by and large the original texts make more mention of homosexual males (or what have been translated to be homosexual males).

Answer 2

If you look at the bible, I believe there's something alone the lines of "Thou shall not lie with a man like thou lie with a woman." Many believe that this means homosexual acts between men is wrong.

Some, however, theorize it has nothing to do against actual homosexuals. When the bible was written, women were considered "lower status" then men. So, thus, to lie with a man like they did with a woman was to make their status the same as a woman, something dishonourable, apparently.

Perceptions are mixed up, especially with the bible which is not clear at all, yet this is probably why two guys being together is bad, but not two women (because it says nothing about that). I think that the bible is just wrong, period, mostly because it has been changed and edited (even if no one noticed) throughout the years.

Answer 3

u cld call any happy person "gay"
because gay means happy, bright or lively.

and "Lesbian" is an ancient Greek dialect.
(so dont insult an old Greek launguage)

ppl shld use the word "homosexual"
because that clearly has one meaning

and ppl shldnt point out faults of other ppl, because thats being a hypocrit (all ppl make mistakes, some are just bigger than others)

and if ppl want 2 get married (and prbly have it end in divorce) thats theyre problem, it doesnt effect u!

Answer 4

Assuming you're in the US . . .

Look at how "women friends" are here. Sometimes they even kiss hello, and they routinely hug, go on "dates" (i.e. shopping dates, coffee dates . . . you get the idea), chat for hours on the phone, and so on. There's not much of a leap between 'close friends' and 'lovers' in the traditional sense.

Now look at "guy friends." They laugh, drink beer, watch football, go hunting/fishing/camping, etc. (I'm going for the stereotype here. . . don't hurt me.) Meanwhile, gay guys are usually classified as being girly and sex-obsessed. Which group sounds closer to being "friends" than "lovers?" It's harder to distinguish "friends" from "lovers" in the female circle.

Answer 5

I've often wondered that myself and have my own theories on it. I won't share them here for fear of really offending anyone. I'm a lesbian and have seemed to notice that with women it's more of an emotional tie than a physical tie. At least it is with me and my partner. Granted the physical attraction is there, too, but we are very deeply bonded to one another.

Answer 6

There is nothihng unnatural about it. What is unnatural is the fact that some people so hate the world and themselves that they find a reason to hate complete strangers.

Answer 7

You do not mention your current location that matters to reply your answer. Anyway I am not gay, and I am not against them at all, I believe on that do what you can and want.

Answer 8

I do not approve of homosexuality and I will stand up and say so despite the World's 'trendy' acceptance of the lifestyle.

Answer 9

I think I read somewhere that it has something to do with a sub-conscious fear of penetration (and I don't just mean d!ck).

Answer 10

guys a s s yes