i have difficulties trusting people. why? because many people that i have encountered with became backstabbers. have any of you experienced something like that before? but i actually would like to know how i can put my trust into people. i really do want to trust people but it's just not that easy. this is why i don't want to be close to anyone. this is also why i'm a bit skeptical about friendships. they say that love doesn't last. but guess what? friendship doesn't last, either!
2006-06-07 20:56:31 · 13 answers · asked by anak sendu 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
"Once bitten twice shy" - yet i continue to 'trust' because i'd rather see the good in people first, at the onset, rather than putting up a defensive barrier as a general rule - trust me it's not easy but important for me as a person.
i have lost money through the years helping out friends and colleagues at the time - all 'disappeared' don't want to be found; but i accept it as part of human nature. i don't feel bitter about it only sadness because i would have preferred to have them stayed as friends.
Being cautious is wise but not to the point of skepticism and mistrust in a relationship before it has time to mature. The only motive or objective in seeking friendship is friendship itself; and the only purpose to love is love itself; accepting everything that invariably comes with it - pain and pleasure, happiness and sorrow. If you seek only the pleasure and the happiness then it's better not to love... because you won't really know what real pleasure and true happiness are all about - you haven't experience pain and sorrow.
2006-06-07 21:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Trusting anyone(stranger) is a difficult thing n even it has become the most difficult thing in the present scenario of world, where a person has become multi-faced,means wot S/he is in front of u,it is not necessary dat S/he will remain the same 4 u forever.It might happen dat ur present best friend would become ur worst enemy within a few daz.So it is a difficult thing to judge a particular one.
But it doesn't mean dat u can't have fully trusted friend,its d way u r letting him or her in,in ur life matters.U can't make a final opinion abt any1 u meet 4 the fst time.So u shud make a general thought 4 all u meet 4 the fst time,and gradually,turn by turn,going thru different phases of life u shud change ur ideas and opinion in favour or in agnst of him/her.
Then finally u'll find ur "THE BEST FRIEND",wid whom u can share evrything,whom u can trust more than urself,and who will b more than ur loved one.
2006-06-07 21:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ranjeet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYBODY has been in or is still in your shoes. People fail us ALL the time. Things get better as you get older and people feel less competative. One thing I try to remember is to not put all my eggs in one basket-One person can not meet all of your needs. Spread your needs and desires around among your friends. Find out who you can trust gossip with; and who you can trust your romance interests with; and who you can trust your shopping splurges with.
This too shall pass and Is part of LIFE. People fail us. I have also found faith and believe in something other than myself and other humans (God/Jesus). That helps me personally as God is the only thing that NEVER backstabbs etc.
2006-06-07 21:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by amandasmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. Having been so terribly hurt in the past by others, I have a horrible time trusting others. But with Angel (my fiancee) I am learning how to trust again. It will come in time.
2006-06-07 21:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by ravenna_wing1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fully agreed on the government bit.
But as for trusting people.
well you can trust people and be cautious but make sure you watch your back at all times as theres trusting and theres trusting with everything!
There is a difference ;-)
2006-06-07 21:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by staceuk_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, I just lost all my trust in my best friend and it feels awful, I feel like I can't trust anybody
2006-06-07 20:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!!
you must trust people
i dont know you but i ask to your question :i trust you!!
friendship is very important
be my friend !!
what a wonderfull word
why not?
send me a mail
isa
2006-06-07 21:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by isagauth_2046 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, have I ever. The one thing you absolutely must not trust is your own government.
2006-06-07 20:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Velveeta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in yourself you wont go wrong
2006-06-07 21:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by bmxcollections 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trust very few. My children and my hub, thats about it.
2006-06-07 20:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by blah blah blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋