2006-06-07 20:30:36 · 9 answers · asked by jivs36 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would mainly like to know a man's point of view. all because i dont know what he's thinking most of the time. but ladies...your opinion is good too!!
2006-06-07 20:37:50 · update #1
support him,let him know his health isn't what you love. Remind him of the man you fell in love with and that you'll always be there for him because of your love, not pity or remorse
2006-06-07 20:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by FunnyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression makes human more sick. Your husband needs your complete support.
1. Try to cure him if it is curable.
2. Move the good location if the situation allowed you. Go to hill station or stay at island.
3.Love him more than when his health was oK
4.Try to divert his mind other than his health.
5. Do whatever he likes and avoid what ever he don't.
6. This is the right time you got to love and care of him.
7. You let him feel that you are very happy with him.
8. Give him more time sit with him happily, talk to him and make him laughter and say him that you love him much much more than any one in this world by keeping his hand in your hand.
I Pay for you and him. Get well soon. We all love and care of you.
2006-06-08 04:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by khanismine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending upon what his health issue is, you can work with him to treat it. Does it require exercise? Set up a time each day where the two of you can do for about 30 minutes on most days.
Does it require him to take medications? Have them ready for him and make sure he is taking it. Stay positive no matter what it is and make sure you give him every oppurtunity to talk about this. When he does, take the positive road each time. Soon he will see that you are being this way and will take this approach himself. Depending upon his condition, this is all I can tell you for now but no matter what it may be, if you can stay positive, it will help him.
Good luck
2006-06-08 10:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way you can help a person who's depressed is to get their mind off whatever's depressing them. You can ask him, "What is not making you feel depressed?" And that will get him thinking about all the things that he does not feel depressed about. You can even get his mind off of it by pointing out things in the room and saying, "is the dog making you feel depressed? Is the lamp making you feel depressed? Is that rug making you feel depressed?"
In the long term, curing depression is a matter of replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. Help your husband make a list of positive reassuring statements he can honestly say to himself. This way when he starts to feel negative he can have some statements to say to himself to improve his mood. A therapist can be very helpful in teaching a person to replace their negative thoughts with positive ones.
Finally, depression is believed to be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. While people can overcome depression without medication it's an option worth considering. Make an appointment with a psychiatrist and they can talk with you and your husband to help determine whether medication would be beneficial.
I suffer from anxiety and depression myself. Mine was most severe when I graduated from college and didn't yet have a job or any plans for graduate school. I found getting a job difficult and wasn't sure how I felt about the idea of more school. What made me so depressed was that I was pursuing a career in business and kept getting rejected on job interviews (I have a degree in Finance). Then, I did get a job in business but hated it and quit. That made me depressed to, because I felt completely adrift ... I didn't want to do business, but what did I want to do? I finally decided to follow my dream and try to get a political job. I've done a lot of political stuff and I know I love politcs. Just a week ago, I got my poltical job, and that's helped my depression like nothing else could. To make a long story short, I felt depressed because I felt hopeless. Now that I have my dream job, I feel encouraged and excited about my future.
2006-06-08 03:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what is wrong with his health. You could start walking together in the country or go on a relaxing health club Holiday You will both feel the benefit. But what you have to do is as he is a man he will not make an appointment to see the Doc so you will have to make it for him then encourage him to go.
2006-06-08 03:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs help and support depression can lead to all sorts of problems in your marriage,there are support groups you can turn to.
or even the GP i have depression and i take medication which helps.
2006-06-08 03:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Didi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and support him through this... Have him seek medical help and attention for it. He may need medication and counseling. Do things with him that make him smile or laugh! Rent some comedy movies and do things with him that he loves or likes to do!
2006-06-08 07:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the rest here,you shld give him your total support on this one.I also advice you to make sure he takes his medication and may be see a doctor.
2006-06-08 03:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by dank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could give him you support, and be with him and help him. Although it seemed nothing to you but it's already a great comfort for him.
2006-06-08 03:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Laguna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋