(Marriage is on 22nd year, have 18 year old son & 4 year old son - Catholic background)
2006-06-07 20:04:48 · 8 answers · asked by Randa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(I am neither the husband or the wife. I am a 3rd party who is watching this happen & trying to understand her motivations for staying, and his motivations for continuing to cheat, but wanting to stay in the marriage.)
2006-06-07 20:15:29 · update #1
Agree with machelle. This is true love, from the wife -- unconditional, but probably also for the financial security, social acceptance, for the kids etc. All very good reasons to stick together. Plus probably a deep understanding of who he is. He won't leave her because that depth of guilt generates such a huge debt of gratitude. As long as he treats her with reasonable respect and dignity, she will stay, and as long as she is reasonably tolerant, he will stay.
2006-06-07 22:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by stcados 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that gets asked about 1 million times and will be asked again. Cheaters cheat - the reasons vary from sex addiction; learn behavior from their own parents or care takers cheating, or a need to prove their manhood or womanhood. Some people actually think they should behave this way because it defines that they are worthy or someone else wants them. They will blame their spouse for gaining weight, not spending time with and a host of other reasons. However, why not spend that time with his wife and work on bonding their relationship and becoming closer as wife and husband, lovers and friends. Seriously, they do think they love their wife, but they never learn to value their self-worth or the respect for others. Then there is the wife or husband that allows themselves to be treated badly - which is wrong, it's like giving a drug addict permission to get high or buy drugs knowing that they are an addict.
2016-03-26 22:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am no Catholic background expert however, i understand why the wife would stay. Some religious faiths are opposed to divorce.
Some faiths allow divorce if there is an issue of infidelity. I think you may be afraid to give up on your marriage after investing so much time in the relationship. The fact that you have stayed so long with a cheating spouse that takes you for granted speaks volumes of your character. It says that you know how to love unconditionally. You are a true gem, but you deserve someone who loves you equally and respects you enough to honor wedding vows.
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2006-06-07 20:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by machelle6691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds to me like she is a nut in any religion. I would be damned if I stayed with my ex that long after catching him cheating on me. Doesn't matter what religion you are, or if the church likes it or not, their laws mean nothing, you have to consider this day and age, she has to look after herself, and not worry what anyone else thinks, if she stays with that thing(can't call him a man, a real man doesn't cheat) he is going to bring home something that ajax can't take off, and pass it on to her, and she may possibly lose her life to it, and then where would her child be? No ways of any church is worth the risk of losing your life over, and God would understand why she had to leave him, because once he cheated their vows were broken, and she was set free, she has done nothing wrong in the eyes of the Lord, and she can hold her head up proud, because her husband has done this, and broken their marriage contract to God. It's O.K. for her to divorce him. The Catholic church only looks at keeping the statistics down, where she has to look at keeping her health UP for her children.
2006-06-07 23:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by tennessee_cherokee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that. Put religion aside. Look at family life now. Are you happy? Do you want your 4 y.o. son to learn how to live life from this man? Do you want your 4y.o. to be like him? If not, then either leave him and live a life away from him following your religious values, or divorce him and start your life new. It can only get worse if you stay...better if you leave.
2006-06-07 20:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by markgrinny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must really love you and be forgiving but according to the bible she does have reason to divorce you... Be thankful you have the wife you have and count your blessings for her and for goodness sake seek help from counseling for your problem and dont ever to this to her again! How would you feel if she did this to you some day?
2006-06-08 00:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must love you. And catholics believe in forgiveness. are you the wife or the cheater?
2006-06-07 20:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crazy in my opion ?
2006-06-07 22:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋