My boyfriend holds the firm belief that women and men can't just be friends. If this is so, why did he contact his ex girlfriend more than once via email and phone. In total maybe for times over a 4 month period. He does not know I know. Am I over reacting or shoud I suspect something?
2006-06-07 19:57:50 · 16 answers · asked by fuzzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. Great advice. I did confront him. He says I am being crazy. Apparently, she contacted him first and he was just responding. I ask...more than once? He assures me that he loves me and there is nothing to be concerned about. We live together, quite far away from where she is. I feel better about that. Yet, I am still unsettled. Regardless, thank you for your great responses. Trust is a big issue and communication is the only way I will be able to truly trust.
2006-06-10 07:55:57 · update #1
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2006-06-07 20:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're over reacting at all. If he told you that he believes that men and women can't just be friends there is no reason why he should be contacting his ex without telling you. However, on the flip side he may have just told you that so you don't have guy friends which is just lame!
I would be uncomfortable with this find also. I think you should talk to him about it.
Good luck
2006-06-07 20:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by MamaOfTwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But do you know the reason why he has contacted her..?
Maybe to get some of stuff that was rightfully his at her house,
Maybe she isn't being that nice of a person about breaking up with this guy of yours.
Maybe he wants to forget about his past and work on his future but this ex-gal friend won't let him..
Lay it on the line.. be honest with your self and maybe in return he may be also.
2006-06-07 20:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Angus. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over reacting?Girl!NOT!!!!!a little secret,boyfriend?are you in love with this guy!?see life teaches us lessons for learning,and the saying,a woman intuition is mostly correct,but will say this much!something isn,t right ibn yall,s relation,homeboy is slipping!over reacting or suspect something?Girl,girl,girl!hold your dignity!and most your self respect of not lowering yourself to or when a male is messin up!it can work two ways here?react?stupidly and blind-meaning not knowing all the facts of what you are dealin with,the other be on top of your game girlfriend?and not just yet would i allow him to know,that i know this?99.9%-he as well as she is trying to work there way around their bizzy schedule to make it happen!(hooking up)!a few tips for the needy!You gotta watchhhhhhhhhhhh!analize all area of activity that he does if wanting to know if he is messin around? if you both are living together,soap smell!?if differ!then the one at home,one point!next i know this sounds gross!but girlfriend check the drawssssssssssss!boxers or briefs!if smell like coochie thats not yours?most if he were or did,check for body marks on the back by the shoulder blades or lower part of the hips,play your cards right hun!it always come to the light if did,simply because she will deffinately make it her bizz,to let you know that she was there?I also beleive love between two,is based on trust,if no trust,there,s no love hun! so i wish you well cause no way with me that crap would be going on!
2006-06-07 20:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by sheena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy perspective:
4 times in 4 months? Thats not a lot. At all. If he was really into her, it would be a whole lot more.
You can ask him about it, tell him how you feel. And if he loves you then he will respect your decision.
Good luck!
2006-06-07 20:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by jaredkbyrd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why gal, you didn't confront him? it would be what i do in your situation. ok, lets be practical. just ask him plainly why he contacted her. maybe he has some genuine reason. if not , put forth his theory about' gals n guys can't be friends alone' to his face and see how he reacts. If he apologises n confesses, give him one more chance. otherwise be strong and say 'good riddance to bad rubbish, good bye!'
2006-06-08 19:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not simply ask him why he was/is contacting her? Is there anything they share that they may have to stay in contact for? I wouldn't let myself sit there and worry myself to death if I were you. You will never know this answer unless you ask him.
2006-06-07 21:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound good, but i am a great believer in that things always appear worse than they actually are. tell him you know about the contact with his ex and watch his reaction. he might get really nervy, look at his body language too. i hope its good news for you
2006-06-07 20:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by lovin_me2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has some unfinished business... loaned money, items lol maybe you should just speak to him about it.. it's best to be honest before drawing any conspiracy theories.. but yeah it's hard for women and men to be friends, if you're hetrosexual, yuo will always quickly draw conclusions about sexual compatibility, it's our biology, men do it before they even take in her eye colour.
2006-06-07 20:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the guy..were you friends with him before becoming his girlfriend? you should be able to remain friends with someone you love...he was probably asking her advice on how not to screw things up with you the way he did with her
2006-06-07 20:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by MENDOLISCIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋