Help me PLz?

Question

I dont whant to be gay or bi but the thought of doing things with guys sounds so good and i just cant handle this its so frustrateibg see plz help like when i am righting this i whant people to say its ok to be gay and thats normal and ok but deep down i know it is bad but PLZ help

Hear me out i dont wont to be gay and i guss i am beating myself up but part of me is saying go kiss him and the other is say it is a huge mistake i whant to but i dont whant to but if i ever got in the mood i might not be able to control my self it is hard holding theses things and feelings in

its what i whant but whats holding it back is that i know its wrong BC i have people saying all the time that i am gay and i whant to prov them wrong right know i whant to cry i dont care right now if it is a guy or girl
plz try to give me good advice

AHHHH thanks for answering this some people how anwers this are gay and they are allready ok with it to me its like a road one is gay and people are there and say ing its ok and the left thers oters saying no its not its bad and come with us like right now being with a guy would be good guys would be more easier to talk to right now mabey this is because i do not have a whole lot of guy friends

Answer 1

you cant help who you love! love is love no matter who its between and it IS okay to be gay theres nothing wrong with it!

Answer 2

Hey! I've been in your shoes and I understand how you feel. Been there done that. I'm a lesbian and was raised in a strict Southern Baptist homelife. Homosexuality was WRONG in my church's and family's eyes. I was with a girl in college but was so guilt ridden over it that I ended up sleeping with a man, getting pregnant, and got married. I lived the next decade in misery, my friend. I HATED sex with my husband. Disgusted me to no end. (No offense is meant towards the men.) Anyway, after numerous other problems the marriage fell apart. Unexpectedly, the girl that is now my partner, came into my life and let me tell you....I am so happy and so in love. I DID beat myself up over this for a long time but I eventually got to t he point where I was at peace with my choice and allowed myself to love this person 100%. She is my soul mate and I do not regret my decision. You are welcome to message me if you need to talk. I know on this site you will hear a lot of gay bashing and such. Please try not to let this get under your skin. THere are some WONDERFUL gay folks out there that are more than willing to talk with you and help you through this part of your life if this is the path you choose to take.

Answer 3

I wouldn't worry about it being gay/bi isn't anything you can do much about, short of brainwashing yourself.... but thats not good for you and could cause a lot of truble.

There is nothing wrong with being gay/bi, and you should accept that.

It don't mean though that you have to act on that part of you if you don't whant to.... If it bothers you, you don't have to do it.

Accepting something don't mean you have to embrace it if you don't whant to...lol

Answer 4

Sounds like you are beating yourself up over this. If you are gay or bisexual then there is nothing wrong with that. There is also nothing wrong with experimenting. If you and a person care about one another and you want to express that through sex then do it. Just be safe and wear a condom or make him wear one{or you both wear 1} Hope this helps.

Answer 5

First, reckon with the fact that any deviation from the norm will make you a target of ridicule, and perhaps worse. If it means enough to you then you have to weigh the consequences. It is not that those feelings are bad, it is the fact that other people who are convinced that they are right will make your life hell if you act upon them. Unless you live in San Francisco.

Answer 6

you cant help the way you were born. i used to feel the same way until i did some research and found that it was only in fairly recent times that homosexualtiy was viewed as a"bad" thing and that perception is slowly changing again.
try looking up homosexualtiy at wikipedia.org for more background info

my emails [e-mail] if you ever wanna talk about this

Answer 7

It's okay to be that way even though some people don't like it.But if that's what u want and you feel comfortable with that life style then go ahead.I'm sure you will be alright or make the right decision

Answer 8

why are trying to fight what you want? You should at least try it and if you really don't like it, then you'll get over it. And what do you mean it's wrong? People only judge you because they think they're better than you, but really, who cares what people think?

Answer 9

Boy,you got a rotten head,you need prayers not advice.God said go forth and multiply,with people like you the world would be extinct!

Answer 10

Check out g0ys.org website you dont have to be gay if you don't want to be you can be g0y. G0ys still love on dudes they just don't do buttsex.