I just had a BA (boob job) 6 weeks ago....Hubby said he loved me before just the way I was....but man his sex drive has gone through the roof....Makes me feel like he was lying before about loving me the way I was. I have such mixed emotions. I am glad he is taking the reins and initiating sex....but why now much more than before if he really loved me the way I was. I did this more for me than for him. So I would be happy with what I saw in the mirror. Arghhhhhh........do "they" really make that much difference. What gives? No crude answers please. I was a total hottie before the boobs!
2006-06-07 18:49:08 · 9 answers · asked by momkmmt4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So does that make us a piece of meat? I just have a hard time accepting that we were created to serve men visually! Again I would like "real" men to answer this question!
2006-06-07 19:04:45 · update #1
No I am not complaining.....because....I could not can not get enough.....Just curious as to why the change in his drive...mine has always been there!
2006-06-07 19:17:42 · update #2
Men are visual animals by nature. We are stimulated more visually then emotionally.
Edit: I didn't mean to say you were a piece of meat. I was pointing out a known psychological factor about men. We are stimulated more visually then anything else.
I don't think he was lying to you previously. More like he sees you now as a different person with your new breasts.
Why did you get them done if you were a hottie though? If its a self esteem issue, you should seek counciling note surgery. Good luck.
2006-06-07 18:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by vinnyschenck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are more visual and this is especially true when it comes to sex. Your husband may have always been a boob man. Boob men usually are more excited by larger boobs! It's that simple. Other men are more leg and butt guys and to them, the boobs are nice but not that important. I do hope that our husband doesn't grow tired of this and then suddenly the sex is slowing down for you or not there at all. If this starts to happen, you may have to take steps to "tease him" with them to keep him interested. Right now your boobs are a new toy to him. Find ways to keep the "toys" fun or he will fall back into the same rut.
Either way, I wish you luck and I hope that you are happy with them.
2006-06-08 03:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably just a little bored before, which happens if you've been with the same person a while. With a little change, it makes things more exciting, especially if you've been together a while, so that would explain the sex drive.
Either that, or he may just really like big boobs. Just like some guys prefer brunettes vs blondes or something, some guys prefer small boobs over big (or vice versa). It probably doesn't matter as much as you think it does though...
2006-06-07 19:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man, I believe him when he said he liked you before. After all, he was with you, in love with you, wasn't he? Pity us, we're visual creatures, there's a direct link between our eyes and our "junk", I think it's a basic instinct, it's why we like to ogle women so much. Your BA was an improvement on a good thing, don't second guess it. It's simple, you just turn him on more now. Enjoy!
2006-06-08 02:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agrred with Vinny, we are visual when it comes to sex. Women are more emotional. That is why more guys watch porn. Just deal with it and enjoy the increased sex.
2006-06-07 18:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy and what they like... Not all guys are boob men! My husband loves my flat belly and legs!
2006-06-08 00:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just appreciate it, girl. There are more irritating or questionable things in the world. Having said that, i feel your dilemma.
2006-06-07 19:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by past_present_subsequent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you actually complaining?! I can understand your confusion but any woman wud just enjoy this...He loves you but he is still a man...
2006-06-07 19:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women that have fake boobs do not turn me on at all. Just phonys!
2006-06-07 19:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋