boyfriend seperated but still not divorced?

Question

i've been w/my bf for 5yrs. He's been seperated from his wife for 6yrs but still not divorced should i stay or go. we have a 16mth old daughter.

Answer 1

You should ASK HIM! :)

Answer 2

First of all,you should have never gotten involved with a married man. Now you have a child together,and the plot thickens. The only thing you and him can do,is concentrate on the well-being of your daughter. Although he and the wife are separated,that's only because she's pissed off,about him having an affair,that resulted in your pregnancy. She will more than likely forgive him,and they will continue to live as husband and wife. If it's been 6 years,and still no divorce,then there won't be one. You having his child does'nt mean he's going to leave his wife; they rarely do,so don't count on it. Prepare to give your daughter an explanation (in the future) as to why daddy doesn't live with the two of you. Just continue to give her the uttmost love and affection,and she'll grow up to be happy,healthy and normal.

(PS) I've answered similar questions like this before,and people did not choose my answer,simply because they are afraid to hear the truth. I'm not asking for 10 points. This advise is on me!

Answer 3

Should I stay or go? If you even ask this question, you are halfway out. Think about it, to even consider leaving someone, is not true love, not as painful as it could/should be. You will eventually leave him. You are finding some weird excuses to do so. He may or may not love his ex, but many many many many people do not grant their ex divorces, to make their lives miserable. Either party can do it, and it mostly prevents her from marrying someone else. He is making his ex's life miserable, a form of power and control over how she will be able to marry next. Your considering leaving him, is based on how he has been treating you. If he knows that not divorcing his ex also means not being able to officially marry you, then that's a plan right there as well. I would personally leave a strategist like him myself. In either of these motives, he's a control freak, and selfish.

Answer 4

I was in the same boat for 7 years.
We got together as friends after she separated from her husband. I was with her for over a year before we even had sex. We spent 3 years together before we went to the next level.
We talked about getting an apartment AND a divorce. A year later she said no divorce. My stupid *** stuck around for 3 more years. She wanted me to move in with and her grown kids plus 2 grand kids, but I said no because she is still married.
She finally cheated on me a few months ago because I would not commit to her.
Gee, after 7 years nothing had changed, but it was MY fault.
Give the guy an ultimatum, divorce or kick him to the curb.

Answer 5

Ask him what is up and why he has not gotten a divorce by now. 6 years is more than enough time and it should be telling him to move on and get it done.

Answer 6

i would ask him what in the hel- is he waiting on and tell him either you get a divorce and end that relationship or i will move on but i would tell him he needs to make his mind up on what he wants in life and if he wants a future with you he needs to get divorced

Answer 7

Move on .... He will never divorce her if he has not already and you never should have started seeing a married man anyway. Not worth the pain and agravation!

Answer 8

do u want to get married to him thats the question cause if u do then he get a divorce.

Answer 9

He doesnt want to marry you why are you wasting time, with a married man who is a cheater. and I think a liar

Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 10

I would'nt hold my breath if I were u. It sounds like he doesn't want to commit to u. u need to accept this and move on.